Assets is king- it is VALUE, MAGNET, SEDUCTIVE, RESOURCEFUL, SECURE, PRODUCTIVE
Sales is king- its More VALUE, MAGNET, SEDUCTIVE, RESOURCEFUL, SECURE, PRODUCTIVE
Cash is king- its More More VALUE, MAGNET, SEDUCTIVE, RESOURCEFUL, SECURE, PRODUCTIVE
Saturday, 1 November 2008
performance and potential- two sides of the same coin
Stars(high performance, high potential)
Agree challenging work to stretch them;
coach and mentor; agree projects and
career development.
Problem children (low performance, high potential) Counsel (boredom? low challenge?) inspire,
motivate, encourage to improve performance and reach potential.
Icebergs (low performance, low potential) could contain potential stars and backbone. Counsel, establish trust, agree aims, and take action to help, including outplacement if best.
Backbone(high performance, low potential)Give recognition for good work,use to coach others, do they really have no potential?
Agree challenging work to stretch them;
coach and mentor; agree projects and
career development.
Problem children (low performance, high potential) Counsel (boredom? low challenge?) inspire,
motivate, encourage to improve performance and reach potential.
Icebergs (low performance, low potential) could contain potential stars and backbone. Counsel, establish trust, agree aims, and take action to help, including outplacement if best.
Backbone(high performance, low potential)Give recognition for good work,use to coach others, do they really have no potential?
Who was Peter Drucker?
Peter Drucker was one of the world's most respected thinkers on management and society. Peter Drucker had a great way with words. He distilled meaningful concepts into short phrases more effectively than any other management guru. The concepts and philosophies he developed have shaped modern management thinking. He wrote over 30 books and articles about innovation, entrepreneurship and strategies for dealing with a changing world; "Because the purpose of business is to create and keep a customer, the business enterprise has two--
and only two--basic functions: marketing and innovation. Marketing and innovation produce results; all the rest are costs. Marketing is the distinguishing, unique function of the business." Drucker was born in Vienna, and educated there and in England. He received a doctorate in international law while working as a newspaper reporter in Frankfurt, Germany. He remained in Germany until 1933, when one of his essays was banned by the Nazi regime. For a time, he worked as an economist for a bank in London, and then moved to the United States in 1937. In the early 1940s, General Motors invited Drucker to study its inner workings. That experience led to his 1946 management book "Concept of the Corporation." For many years GM ignored nearly every recommendation in the book even though its own executives had commissioned it. This seminal study introduced the concept of decentralisation as a principle of organisation, in contrast to the practice of command and control in business. Drucker reported he was told that any manager found with a copy
would be fired. The ideas in this book however, launched the field of management and essentially created the field of consulting.
In "The Practice of Management,(1954)" Drucker posed three now-classic business questions:
· What is our business?
· Who is our customer?
· What does our customer consider valuable?
He coined the terms "knowledge workers" and "management by objectives." Central to his philosophy was the belief that highly skilled people are an organisation's most valuable resource and that a manager's job is to prepare and free people to perform. In the early 1950s, when other business leaders thought the worldwide market for computers was in the single digits, he predicted that computer technology would thoroughly transform business.
Some useful Drucker quotes;
· The aim of marketing is to know and understand the customer so well the product or service
fits him and sells itself.
· Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.
· Checking the results of a decision against its expectations shows executives what their
strengths are, where they need to improve, and where they lack knowledge or information.
· The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said.
· Trying to predict the future is like trying to drive down a country road at night with no lights
while looking out the back window.
and only two--basic functions: marketing and innovation. Marketing and innovation produce results; all the rest are costs. Marketing is the distinguishing, unique function of the business." Drucker was born in Vienna, and educated there and in England. He received a doctorate in international law while working as a newspaper reporter in Frankfurt, Germany. He remained in Germany until 1933, when one of his essays was banned by the Nazi regime. For a time, he worked as an economist for a bank in London, and then moved to the United States in 1937. In the early 1940s, General Motors invited Drucker to study its inner workings. That experience led to his 1946 management book "Concept of the Corporation." For many years GM ignored nearly every recommendation in the book even though its own executives had commissioned it. This seminal study introduced the concept of decentralisation as a principle of organisation, in contrast to the practice of command and control in business. Drucker reported he was told that any manager found with a copy
would be fired. The ideas in this book however, launched the field of management and essentially created the field of consulting.
In "The Practice of Management,(1954)" Drucker posed three now-classic business questions:
· What is our business?
· Who is our customer?
· What does our customer consider valuable?
He coined the terms "knowledge workers" and "management by objectives." Central to his philosophy was the belief that highly skilled people are an organisation's most valuable resource and that a manager's job is to prepare and free people to perform. In the early 1950s, when other business leaders thought the worldwide market for computers was in the single digits, he predicted that computer technology would thoroughly transform business.
Some useful Drucker quotes;
· The aim of marketing is to know and understand the customer so well the product or service
fits him and sells itself.
· Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.
· Checking the results of a decision against its expectations shows executives what their
strengths are, where they need to improve, and where they lack knowledge or information.
· The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said.
· Trying to predict the future is like trying to drive down a country road at night with no lights
while looking out the back window.
Assertive- General Advice
EXPECT SURPRISE AND EVEN OPPOSITION
it has taken a lifetime to get you to behave the way you do now, so do not expect to change overnight. Also remember that those who are close to you will not expect your behaviour to change. THEIR MAY BE OTHERS WHO HAVE A VESTED INTEREST IN KEEPING YOU NON-ASSERTIVE OR AGGRESSIVE.
this means that when you decide to change your behaviour, as well as disciplining yourself, you must also expect surprise, even opposition, from others who know and have a vested interest in the 'OLD YOU'
BY THE INCH ITS A CINCH BUT BY THE YARD IT IS VERY HARD
it is unwise to set yourself too ambitious targets- start with acorns and let them grow slowly in oaks. go for small increments of change and build on them.
EXPECT FAILURE AND USE IT
failure is a part of change. when you try anything new, but especially behaviour, it is unlikely that you will get it right the first time. You get it wrong before you get it right. Be both realistic and resilient when you fail. If at first you dont succeed, try harder.
remember success only comes before work in a dictionary!!
ALLOW FOR SLIPPAGE
when you squeeze a ball you create an indentation, but the stop the ball reverts to its original size and shape. Human behaviour is just like the ball- it will revert back to its old comfortable ways. So expect slippage, but do not give in to it.
IT TAKES TIME
Behaviour changes slowly. Crash diets or crash exercises do not work, nor do crash behaviour changes. Just think about the simple skill of learning to drive, with the hours of instruction and practice it requires. To become assertive takes just as much time and effort, perhaps even more.
REMEMBER
THOUGHTS lead to
ACTIONS which lead to
HABITS which lead to
CHARACHTER which leads to
PERSONALITY which leads to
THE NEW YOU
JUST AS FOR SMOKERS THE BODY FIGHTS AGAINST GIVING UP NICOTINE, SO YOUR PRESENT MINDSET WILL RESIST YOU MAKING CHANGES. IT WILL TAKE TIME FOR YOU SETTLE DOWN TO THE NEW ASSERTIVE YOU.
SET SMART GOALS
S - Specific- define exactly what you want
M - Measurable- what will be the success criteria
A - Appropriate- ensure they are appropriate to you
R - Realistic- they must be feasible
T - Timebound- by when are you going to do it
goals are dreams that you are going to make real. they are no miracles- you wont be the first person to fly by flapping your arms. if you were not born in America you cannot be President. If you are 55 you are not likely to be an Olympic swimmer. But you can easily be assertive by:
Stating what you want
Stating your limits
Saying 'No'
Getting what you pay for
Demanding respect
Changing your mind
Giving a speech or presentation
MOST PEOPLE FIND COMMITTING THEIR GOALS TO WRITING VERY HELPFUL
TIP
keep a log book or journal where you can record your thoughts, objectives, goals and learning points. It is good discipline and will help you marshal your thoughts, and be more specific and focused. It is also very motivating to look back and see what you have achieved.
ASSERTIVE ACTIVITIES
Personal Record
Heroes
Scripts
Cushion Talk
Chunk it Down
Giving Compliments
Find a Mentor
Feedback & Criticism
Look after Yourself and your Self-Esteem
it has taken a lifetime to get you to behave the way you do now, so do not expect to change overnight. Also remember that those who are close to you will not expect your behaviour to change. THEIR MAY BE OTHERS WHO HAVE A VESTED INTEREST IN KEEPING YOU NON-ASSERTIVE OR AGGRESSIVE.
this means that when you decide to change your behaviour, as well as disciplining yourself, you must also expect surprise, even opposition, from others who know and have a vested interest in the 'OLD YOU'
BY THE INCH ITS A CINCH BUT BY THE YARD IT IS VERY HARD
it is unwise to set yourself too ambitious targets- start with acorns and let them grow slowly in oaks. go for small increments of change and build on them.
EXPECT FAILURE AND USE IT
failure is a part of change. when you try anything new, but especially behaviour, it is unlikely that you will get it right the first time. You get it wrong before you get it right. Be both realistic and resilient when you fail. If at first you dont succeed, try harder.
remember success only comes before work in a dictionary!!
ALLOW FOR SLIPPAGE
when you squeeze a ball you create an indentation, but the stop the ball reverts to its original size and shape. Human behaviour is just like the ball- it will revert back to its old comfortable ways. So expect slippage, but do not give in to it.
IT TAKES TIME
Behaviour changes slowly. Crash diets or crash exercises do not work, nor do crash behaviour changes. Just think about the simple skill of learning to drive, with the hours of instruction and practice it requires. To become assertive takes just as much time and effort, perhaps even more.
REMEMBER
THOUGHTS lead to
ACTIONS which lead to
HABITS which lead to
CHARACHTER which leads to
PERSONALITY which leads to
THE NEW YOU
JUST AS FOR SMOKERS THE BODY FIGHTS AGAINST GIVING UP NICOTINE, SO YOUR PRESENT MINDSET WILL RESIST YOU MAKING CHANGES. IT WILL TAKE TIME FOR YOU SETTLE DOWN TO THE NEW ASSERTIVE YOU.
SET SMART GOALS
S - Specific- define exactly what you want
M - Measurable- what will be the success criteria
A - Appropriate- ensure they are appropriate to you
R - Realistic- they must be feasible
T - Timebound- by when are you going to do it
goals are dreams that you are going to make real. they are no miracles- you wont be the first person to fly by flapping your arms. if you were not born in America you cannot be President. If you are 55 you are not likely to be an Olympic swimmer. But you can easily be assertive by:
Stating what you want
Stating your limits
Saying 'No'
Getting what you pay for
Demanding respect
Changing your mind
Giving a speech or presentation
MOST PEOPLE FIND COMMITTING THEIR GOALS TO WRITING VERY HELPFUL
TIP
keep a log book or journal where you can record your thoughts, objectives, goals and learning points. It is good discipline and will help you marshal your thoughts, and be more specific and focused. It is also very motivating to look back and see what you have achieved.
ASSERTIVE ACTIVITIES
Personal Record
Heroes
Scripts
Cushion Talk
Chunk it Down
Giving Compliments
Find a Mentor
Feedback & Criticism
Look after Yourself and your Self-Esteem
comments, insults, imposters, critics, pulldowns, rude, banter, outspoken, abuse, hurt, harsh...
- I always think the best of people, which is why I consider you to be an idiot.
- I dont recognize your face but your breath seems familiar.
- You should wear a hat- at least you would know which end to wipe.
- Its been nice talking to you- my mind needed a rest.
- Have you thought about doing something for the community, like emigrating?
- I thought I'd see you- everything else has gone wrong today.
- If I could afford the wood, I 'd board your mouth up.
- It's nice to see being successful has not gone to your head, just your mouth.
- I never forget a face, but in your case I will make an exception.
- You'd make a pretty picture- I'd love to hang you.
- You're not yourself today- I noticed the improvement immediately.
- I am busy now- can I ignore you some other time?
- If there's one thing I can't stand it's people talking when I am trying to interrupt.
- You would be a real charmer if it were not for your personality.
- She has an unfortunate accident at birth- she was born.
- Anyone who told you to be yourself couldn't have given you worse advice.
- You must have loads of money- you spend nothing on clothes.
- You are a bit of thin. If I put my arm around you i'd probably slap myself in the face.
- I hope you dont change, I want to forget you just the way you are.
- He is so short that when it rains he is always the last to know.
- I could improve your looks, but I'd probably get arrested if I kicked you in the teeth.
- All the people who haven't heard that joke meet in a telephone box in a remote Devon village on the first Thursday of every month.
- The more I think of you the less I think of you.
- It will be hard getting along without you, but let give it a go.
- What are you going to do for a mouth when the elephant wants its bum back?
- I am not thick, I am just acting this way so you can keep up.
- There is no need for you to go on holiday, you are always on an ego trip.
- Talk is cheap, but thats okay- so are you.
- When God gave out brains you thoughts he said trains and you missed yours.
- I never forget a face and I will certainly remember both of yours.
- Are they your teeth or are you breaking them in for a horse?
- You remind me of a bunglow- nothing upstairs.
- How can I forget you if you wont leave me alone?
- Do you know what I like about you? Absolutely nothing?
- People say that you can live by your wits but that must be rubbish because you are overweight.
- You should sleep face down to be kind to burglars.
- Is there no beginning to your talent?
- Is it true you can walk and chew gum at the same time?
- They got their good looks from their father. He is a plastic surgeon.
- I can tell you are lying your lips are moving.
- You have an inferiority complex and its fully justified.
- Make somebody happy. Mind your own business.
- You are not as bad as people say. You are much worse.
- Can I drop you off somewhere? Perhaps a very tall tower block?
- Your diet is still not working then?
- He is better at sex than anyone. Now he just needs a partner?
- You should do some soul searching- you might just find one.
- Whatever is that's eating you, it must be suffering horribly.
- I hope I run into you again sometime, preferable while I am driving.
- We could improve the quality of this conversation if you kept your mouth shut.
- I hope you never feel the way you look.
- You look dressed to kill. I understand you cook the same way.
Dissatisfaction and how to conquer it
HOW TO CONQUER IT:
take a walk on the top of a steep hill, stop thinking, concentrate on your breathing and your senses, put all your effort into it and stop thinking.
think about your achievements till date. make a list of them.
talk to someone who is satisfied with their life.
use logical thinking to RATIONALISE your thoughts
everyday tell yourself you are GREAT!!
MEDITATE, MEDITATE, MEDITATE
exercise, run, jog, walk
music, movies, art
practise affirmations, mantras, sing loud, read aloud
talk to people, friends, connect
KNOW YOUR OWN MIND
is your thinking driven by what others are doing?
KNOW WHERE YOU STAND
change your mindset rather than yourself
KNOW YOUR WANTS NOT NEEDS
focus on your wants not on your needs
MAKE A CHECKLIST OF YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS
FIND OUT WHAT DRIVES YOU?
SPEND MORE TIME ABOUT WHAT YOU REALLY, REALLY, REALLY WANT!!
KNOW YOUR VALUES AND TRUE NATURE
BE REALISTIC AND GROUNDED
LIVE UPTO YOUR OWN EXPECTATIONS AND GOALS
RELAX, PRAY TO GOD, MEDITATE
DONT LET THE PRESSURE GET BETTER OF YOU
This is a characterstic of many people who feel that whatever they achieve in life is not good enough.
The feelings are of:
emptiness (a hole)
as if something is missing (they need to keep achieving)
inferior to others
that everything they have achieved (all their successes) is meaningless
discontented and unsettled
They:
feel tensed all day
experience a general anxiety and a fear that something bad is going to happen
compare themselves to others on a daily basis
live in the past or the future
dont trust, are suspicious and feel cheated
feel guilty if they get off the treadmill or dont live up to other people's expectations
they exhaust themselves because they cant stop the thoughts which echo: keep going, improve, perfect
REASONS:
the need to keep up with other people
fear that if you relax and enjoy yourself something will happen to take it away
an inner voice saying just a bit more, you are not there yet
being told from an early age that great things are expected of you
being unrealistic in your goals and personal ambitions
living by other people's values and not your own
take a walk on the top of a steep hill, stop thinking, concentrate on your breathing and your senses, put all your effort into it and stop thinking.
think about your achievements till date. make a list of them.
talk to someone who is satisfied with their life.
use logical thinking to RATIONALISE your thoughts
everyday tell yourself you are GREAT!!
MEDITATE, MEDITATE, MEDITATE
exercise, run, jog, walk
music, movies, art
practise affirmations, mantras, sing loud, read aloud
talk to people, friends, connect
KNOW YOUR OWN MIND
is your thinking driven by what others are doing?
KNOW WHERE YOU STAND
change your mindset rather than yourself
KNOW YOUR WANTS NOT NEEDS
focus on your wants not on your needs
MAKE A CHECKLIST OF YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS
FIND OUT WHAT DRIVES YOU?
SPEND MORE TIME ABOUT WHAT YOU REALLY, REALLY, REALLY WANT!!
KNOW YOUR VALUES AND TRUE NATURE
BE REALISTIC AND GROUNDED
LIVE UPTO YOUR OWN EXPECTATIONS AND GOALS
RELAX, PRAY TO GOD, MEDITATE
DONT LET THE PRESSURE GET BETTER OF YOU
This is a characterstic of many people who feel that whatever they achieve in life is not good enough.
The feelings are of:
emptiness (a hole)
as if something is missing (they need to keep achieving)
inferior to others
that everything they have achieved (all their successes) is meaningless
discontented and unsettled
They:
feel tensed all day
experience a general anxiety and a fear that something bad is going to happen
compare themselves to others on a daily basis
live in the past or the future
dont trust, are suspicious and feel cheated
feel guilty if they get off the treadmill or dont live up to other people's expectations
they exhaust themselves because they cant stop the thoughts which echo: keep going, improve, perfect
REASONS:
the need to keep up with other people
fear that if you relax and enjoy yourself something will happen to take it away
an inner voice saying just a bit more, you are not there yet
being told from an early age that great things are expected of you
being unrealistic in your goals and personal ambitions
living by other people's values and not your own
foCus
FOCUS ON MAKING MONEY AS YOUR CAREER- THINK YOURSELF AS MONEY CREATOR, WEALTH CREATOR, the roles are just ways to do it!!
FOCUS ON MONEY- ITS SIMPLE
FOCUS ON THE BOTTOMLINE- ITS HONEST
FOCUS ON THE PROFIT- ITS CLEAR AND FOCUSED
FOCUS ON MONEY & RETURNS & ASSETS- ITS THE ULTIMATE TRUTH!
FOCUS ON MATERIALS, LAND, RICHES, SECURITIES, INCOME- ITS SENSIBLE AND PRACTICAL AND REALISTIC!!
JUST CONCENTRATE ON THE BOTTOMLINES, MONEY, PROFITS, CASH, ASSETS- KEEP IT SIMPLE
JUST THINK ABOUT MONEY! AND DIFFERENT WAYS AND AVENUES TO GENERATE, PRODUCE, REPRDOUCE, CREATE MONEY...
FOCUS ON MONEY- ITS SIMPLE
FOCUS ON THE BOTTOMLINE- ITS HONEST
FOCUS ON THE PROFIT- ITS CLEAR AND FOCUSED
FOCUS ON MONEY & RETURNS & ASSETS- ITS THE ULTIMATE TRUTH!
FOCUS ON MATERIALS, LAND, RICHES, SECURITIES, INCOME- ITS SENSIBLE AND PRACTICAL AND REALISTIC!!
JUST CONCENTRATE ON THE BOTTOMLINES, MONEY, PROFITS, CASH, ASSETS- KEEP IT SIMPLE
JUST THINK ABOUT MONEY! AND DIFFERENT WAYS AND AVENUES TO GENERATE, PRODUCE, REPRDOUCE, CREATE MONEY...
fogging
when someone is putting pressure on you to do something that you can not, or that is not in your best interest, against your nature, and you would rather not do it. The best way to put up a response is by fogging.
Listen to what the person says, and decide whether or not you wish to comply. If not then using their words, or similar, acknowledge their need but state your case.
In this way you show the person that you have understood their request, but that you are not going to comply.
This method is a very polite method of saying "NO"
I need this- I am sure you do but it is just not possible now.
This is important- Of Course it is important but not as important as...
You should help me- Perhaps I should but right now I have other priorites..
I want it now- I can see why you would want that but my priority is...
by using this technique you are less likely to be manipulated into doing something you would rather not and yet you cannot be accused of recognising the other person's need.
Listen to what the person says, and decide whether or not you wish to comply. If not then using their words, or similar, acknowledge their need but state your case.
In this way you show the person that you have understood their request, but that you are not going to comply.
This method is a very polite method of saying "NO"
I need this- I am sure you do but it is just not possible now.
This is important- Of Course it is important but not as important as...
You should help me- Perhaps I should but right now I have other priorites..
I want it now- I can see why you would want that but my priority is...
by using this technique you are less likely to be manipulated into doing something you would rather not and yet you cannot be accused of recognising the other person's need.
my valentine!!!!
WAIT AND WAIT
TURN HER ON AGAIN
DO THINGS THAT WILL TURN HER ON
KEEP FOCUSING ON YOUR WORK AND YOUR GOALS AND TASKS
DO THINGS THAT YOU HAVE IN MIND AND HEART
LEAVE IT TO GOD AND FATE AND TIME
KEEP GOING AND GOING
CHANGE YOUR PICTURES ON FACEBOOK, DO THINGS THAT WILL MAKE HER CONTACT YOU
MAKE HER TALK TO YOU
ask her questions that will get her talking to you
wait for her to come back
its all a game
GET HER CONTACT DETAILS, TALK TO HER, ESTABLISH TOUCH AND GET TALKING AND GET THE FACTS INSTEAD OF BEING LONG TERM, SPIRITUAL, MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIP BASED
wait for time, solve your problems
BE A MAN, DO THINGS THAT A MAN DOES, COURT HER, TEASE HER, FLIRT, MAKE HER FEEL GOOD, PROUD, SMILE
GIVE HER IMPORTANCE AND ATTENTION
SHOW HER AND COMMUNICATE HER THAT YOU LIKE HER AND YOU WANT HER
GIVE HER FLOWERS, ASK HER OUT FOR COFFEE, DATE, MOVIE, MUSIC, FIND OUT HER INTERESTS AND HOBBIES
FIND OUT WHAT TURNS HER ON
FIND OUT WHAT SHE LIKES AND DISLIKES
FIND OUT WHAT ARE HER PLANS FOR LIFE, CAREER, FAMILY, HOME
TAKE IT SLOWLY
PAMPER HER WITH FLIRT, ATTENTION, FLOWERS, GIFTS, TEASE HER, CHAT WITH HER, TALK, SHARE
TALK TO HER, LISTEN, DO THINGS THAT YOU LIKE AND DO IT WITH HER, INVITE HER
MAKE HER YOUR BEST FRIEND
ASK HER OUT TO PLACES YOU LIKE
PLAY ONLINE GAMES WITH HER
ASK HER QUESTIONS
MAKE IT FUN AND LIGHT
DONT GET EMOTIONAL, SPIRITUAL, LONG TERM
LET HER COME TO YOU
WAIT FOR HER
LET HER CONTACT YOU
LET HER SHOW SIGNS OF INTERESTS
YOU SHOW HER SOME INTERESTS
DO SOMETHINGS THAT WILL CONVEY AND COMMUNICATE YOU ARE INTERESTED
FORGET ABOUT MARRIAGE, LOVE, FEELINGS AND TRYING TO HAVE HER AND POSSESS HER
FORGET ABOUT CAREER AND WORK AND HOME AND FAMILY AND MONEY
JUST BE FRIENDS!!
TURN HER ON AGAIN
DO THINGS THAT WILL TURN HER ON
KEEP FOCUSING ON YOUR WORK AND YOUR GOALS AND TASKS
DO THINGS THAT YOU HAVE IN MIND AND HEART
LEAVE IT TO GOD AND FATE AND TIME
KEEP GOING AND GOING
CHANGE YOUR PICTURES ON FACEBOOK, DO THINGS THAT WILL MAKE HER CONTACT YOU
MAKE HER TALK TO YOU
ask her questions that will get her talking to you
wait for her to come back
its all a game
GET HER CONTACT DETAILS, TALK TO HER, ESTABLISH TOUCH AND GET TALKING AND GET THE FACTS INSTEAD OF BEING LONG TERM, SPIRITUAL, MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIP BASED
wait for time, solve your problems
BE A MAN, DO THINGS THAT A MAN DOES, COURT HER, TEASE HER, FLIRT, MAKE HER FEEL GOOD, PROUD, SMILE
GIVE HER IMPORTANCE AND ATTENTION
SHOW HER AND COMMUNICATE HER THAT YOU LIKE HER AND YOU WANT HER
GIVE HER FLOWERS, ASK HER OUT FOR COFFEE, DATE, MOVIE, MUSIC, FIND OUT HER INTERESTS AND HOBBIES
FIND OUT WHAT TURNS HER ON
FIND OUT WHAT SHE LIKES AND DISLIKES
FIND OUT WHAT ARE HER PLANS FOR LIFE, CAREER, FAMILY, HOME
TAKE IT SLOWLY
PAMPER HER WITH FLIRT, ATTENTION, FLOWERS, GIFTS, TEASE HER, CHAT WITH HER, TALK, SHARE
TALK TO HER, LISTEN, DO THINGS THAT YOU LIKE AND DO IT WITH HER, INVITE HER
MAKE HER YOUR BEST FRIEND
ASK HER OUT TO PLACES YOU LIKE
PLAY ONLINE GAMES WITH HER
ASK HER QUESTIONS
MAKE IT FUN AND LIGHT
DONT GET EMOTIONAL, SPIRITUAL, LONG TERM
LET HER COME TO YOU
WAIT FOR HER
LET HER CONTACT YOU
LET HER SHOW SIGNS OF INTERESTS
YOU SHOW HER SOME INTERESTS
DO SOMETHINGS THAT WILL CONVEY AND COMMUNICATE YOU ARE INTERESTED
FORGET ABOUT MARRIAGE, LOVE, FEELINGS AND TRYING TO HAVE HER AND POSSESS HER
FORGET ABOUT CAREER AND WORK AND HOME AND FAMILY AND MONEY
JUST BE FRIENDS!!
diwali diary
as again today, the same usual stuff, chatting with neighbour, kalu uncle, its getting really boring, i can sense and see whats happenning, but i cant really help, i have to go my way ultimately and set my own maps, directions, paths, build my own life, i hate it to live here and chat and talk with people, the same usual talk, i know i will have to work hard and do lot, go through a lot in the coming future, be ready for what ever the life throws at me, at this moment life is truly shit most of the times, i feel compltely out of place, i understand my talks, my words are rude and frank, straightforward, i try to control it but i cant, i dont want to live with parents, especially parents, but i must finish off the tasks and problems and move on, their problems, their emotions, their distputes, sisters marriages, its too much to handle for me, but i am trying and once things are arrnaged, i just want to go my, live in a far off place, have my own set of people, circle, work, money, skills, be happy with whatever i earn and do and make, i dont want to expect anything from them, but at the same time i deserve respect, i deserve better things, which i allright, i must be more adjusting with myself, with the sorroundings, people, take care of my ego, i know i will have to suffer a lot if i dont take care of all this, but its okay, to learn from mistakes, i must find more and more ways to make money and build my career again and not depend on anyone, be independent, make my own life, not be victimised, not be manipulated and dragged into shit, the real shit
i can only only try and pray now that these guys live well and are happy and prosperous and they have enough and not cry and complain, i want to set things and move on, i dont want to be controlled by them
i want to do my own work, be independent, have my own family, my wife, my work, i will have to work very hard, not take any short cuts, talk less and do more, keep shut, learn, move on
at the same time i must relax, let go, be peaceful
sometimes i feel and i also think i am paying for what i have sown, and i am also paying for what i have not sown but others have sown for me.
so i dont want others to sow for me
i want to sow for myself
have my own ambitions, plans, dreams
take things step by step
slowly
be happy and accept myself
be satisfied and content
be good at what i do
whatever i plan and i intend and want to do to make my life, earn money
i will have to do it myself and not depend on others
not be influenced, manipulated and gullible by others for money, goods, emotions
i will and i realise i have to work really really hard, long hours, be concrete, sure, have professional plans, do things step by step, small and then develop, move and grow
i have to be true, dignified, humility, understanding, practical, down to earth, good with money, expenses
at the same time i will have to happy, peaceful, let go, forgiving
i can sense my future will only be realized by being very hard working, full of efforts, being practical with money, being able to face whatever life throws at me, determinded, brave, courageous, loving, emphatetic, thick skinned, not sensitive, stay with like minded people, do things that i want and enjoy, learn skills, work, learn to control my ego and anger, have self control, discipline, be realistic, think logically, very very hard working, very very nice with people, learn to bend down, be understanding, respect others, love others, praise others, do small talk, keep my mouth shut, work very very very hard, be full of effort, not show off, not be proud, take it easy, relax, learn to switch off, learn to let go, respect elders, praise them, flatter them, be a child, be small, take small steps, live in the moment, not dream or think big, get the facts and figures, be realisitc, learn to make money, learn to listen, be a very good listener, be a very good at understanding, be very good at judegement of people, situations, events, future, live in the moment, enjoy, have fun, have good and genuine relationships, not to think and boast about money and wealth all the time, be interested in people, be patient, wait, believe and have solid faith in God, have good self belief, be persistent, do what i talk, walk my talk, not talk in the air, talk less, have my own space, not be pushy, aceept things with a smile, understand its all for nothing at the end of the day, be ready and able to do all kinds of work, jobs, tasks, whether high level or low level, not be insulted and intimidated, respect and love my parents, understand others problems, not be a critic and criticize and nit pick and complain all the time, beleive in myself, learn from my mistakes, accept my mistakes, take responsibility of myself, be ready to start from nothing and scratch, not boast and show off and fall for materialism and pomp and superficialiaty, be frugal and very good with money and at the same time learn to accept myself and be happy with whatever i get, earn and make and can do, sit and be with people of my age group of my interests my liking, not trying to be too clever, oversmart, spend money in the right things, earn money and work hard, do many jobs at the same time, save money, respect pennies, not have bad habits, wake up early, work hard, eat meals on time, take care of my health, epilepsy, manage my stress, manage my worries, be a very good problem solver, plan my work, plan my tasks and do my actions, not scare people, ask for positive feedback, listen to family, be understanding, sleep on time and sleep well, not be sick, work hard and take care of my belongings and my work and my schedules, be committed, manage my ego and attitude and anger, stay grounded and be childish and laugh and relax and let go, meditate, jog, walk, run, accept things, learn to be very and very good with money, expenses, buying, shopping, costs, data, facts, numbers, addresses, names, contacts, processes, not do fraud, manipulations, be full of integrity, be professional, work ethicaly and work good and work well, live well, be very flexible, not be closed minded, not be rigid, not be STUBBORN AND CREATE PROBLEMS FOR OTHERS AND MYSELF, not be aggressive and destructive, not be negative, cynical, take things and think logically, use reason and rationals, accept GROUND REALITIES, LIVE IN THE PRESENT, START FROM SMALL, TAKE SMALL STEPS, NOT OVER DO, NOT OVERTALK, KEEP SHUT, MIND MY OWN WORK, LIFE, SCHEDULES AND BUSIENSS, LIVE AND MIX AND STAY AND TALK TO LIKE MINDED PEOPLE, LEARN TO JUDGE PEOPLE, SITUATIONS, EVENTS, FUTURE
STAY BUSY, STAY ACTIVE, KEEP ON WORKING HARD, KEEP TAKING AND USING OPPORTUNITIES, NOT USE AND MISUSE THINGS, ASSETS AND OTHERS, BE RESULT ORIENTED, KEEP TRYING AND TRYING, FULL OF EFFORT, BE PERSISTENT, BE PATIENT, ABLE TO CHANGE PLANS AND FLEXIBLE, BE READY TO DO WHATEVER JOB IT GET, START FROM SMALL AND LOW AND SCRATCH AND THEN MOVE UP
KEEP WORKING ON MY TASKS, ORGANISING, STRUCTURING, IMPROVING MY THINKING, PLANS, ACTIONS, GOING AND DOING IT, BE PRACTICAL AND REALISTIC, LIVE IN THE PRESENT AND REALITY, LEARN, ACQUIRE SKILLS AND USE THEM AND MAKE MONEY, USE MY SKILLS AND KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCE TO MAKE MONEY
GIVE IT TIME, BE PATIENT, CHILL OUT, RELAX, HANDLE PRESSURE, HAVE FUN
i can only only try and pray now that these guys live well and are happy and prosperous and they have enough and not cry and complain, i want to set things and move on, i dont want to be controlled by them
i want to do my own work, be independent, have my own family, my wife, my work, i will have to work very hard, not take any short cuts, talk less and do more, keep shut, learn, move on
at the same time i must relax, let go, be peaceful
sometimes i feel and i also think i am paying for what i have sown, and i am also paying for what i have not sown but others have sown for me.
so i dont want others to sow for me
i want to sow for myself
have my own ambitions, plans, dreams
take things step by step
slowly
be happy and accept myself
be satisfied and content
be good at what i do
whatever i plan and i intend and want to do to make my life, earn money
i will have to do it myself and not depend on others
not be influenced, manipulated and gullible by others for money, goods, emotions
i will and i realise i have to work really really hard, long hours, be concrete, sure, have professional plans, do things step by step, small and then develop, move and grow
i have to be true, dignified, humility, understanding, practical, down to earth, good with money, expenses
at the same time i will have to happy, peaceful, let go, forgiving
i can sense my future will only be realized by being very hard working, full of efforts, being practical with money, being able to face whatever life throws at me, determinded, brave, courageous, loving, emphatetic, thick skinned, not sensitive, stay with like minded people, do things that i want and enjoy, learn skills, work, learn to control my ego and anger, have self control, discipline, be realistic, think logically, very very hard working, very very nice with people, learn to bend down, be understanding, respect others, love others, praise others, do small talk, keep my mouth shut, work very very very hard, be full of effort, not show off, not be proud, take it easy, relax, learn to switch off, learn to let go, respect elders, praise them, flatter them, be a child, be small, take small steps, live in the moment, not dream or think big, get the facts and figures, be realisitc, learn to make money, learn to listen, be a very good listener, be a very good at understanding, be very good at judegement of people, situations, events, future, live in the moment, enjoy, have fun, have good and genuine relationships, not to think and boast about money and wealth all the time, be interested in people, be patient, wait, believe and have solid faith in God, have good self belief, be persistent, do what i talk, walk my talk, not talk in the air, talk less, have my own space, not be pushy, aceept things with a smile, understand its all for nothing at the end of the day, be ready and able to do all kinds of work, jobs, tasks, whether high level or low level, not be insulted and intimidated, respect and love my parents, understand others problems, not be a critic and criticize and nit pick and complain all the time, beleive in myself, learn from my mistakes, accept my mistakes, take responsibility of myself, be ready to start from nothing and scratch, not boast and show off and fall for materialism and pomp and superficialiaty, be frugal and very good with money and at the same time learn to accept myself and be happy with whatever i get, earn and make and can do, sit and be with people of my age group of my interests my liking, not trying to be too clever, oversmart, spend money in the right things, earn money and work hard, do many jobs at the same time, save money, respect pennies, not have bad habits, wake up early, work hard, eat meals on time, take care of my health, epilepsy, manage my stress, manage my worries, be a very good problem solver, plan my work, plan my tasks and do my actions, not scare people, ask for positive feedback, listen to family, be understanding, sleep on time and sleep well, not be sick, work hard and take care of my belongings and my work and my schedules, be committed, manage my ego and attitude and anger, stay grounded and be childish and laugh and relax and let go, meditate, jog, walk, run, accept things, learn to be very and very good with money, expenses, buying, shopping, costs, data, facts, numbers, addresses, names, contacts, processes, not do fraud, manipulations, be full of integrity, be professional, work ethicaly and work good and work well, live well, be very flexible, not be closed minded, not be rigid, not be STUBBORN AND CREATE PROBLEMS FOR OTHERS AND MYSELF, not be aggressive and destructive, not be negative, cynical, take things and think logically, use reason and rationals, accept GROUND REALITIES, LIVE IN THE PRESENT, START FROM SMALL, TAKE SMALL STEPS, NOT OVER DO, NOT OVERTALK, KEEP SHUT, MIND MY OWN WORK, LIFE, SCHEDULES AND BUSIENSS, LIVE AND MIX AND STAY AND TALK TO LIKE MINDED PEOPLE, LEARN TO JUDGE PEOPLE, SITUATIONS, EVENTS, FUTURE
STAY BUSY, STAY ACTIVE, KEEP ON WORKING HARD, KEEP TAKING AND USING OPPORTUNITIES, NOT USE AND MISUSE THINGS, ASSETS AND OTHERS, BE RESULT ORIENTED, KEEP TRYING AND TRYING, FULL OF EFFORT, BE PERSISTENT, BE PATIENT, ABLE TO CHANGE PLANS AND FLEXIBLE, BE READY TO DO WHATEVER JOB IT GET, START FROM SMALL AND LOW AND SCRATCH AND THEN MOVE UP
KEEP WORKING ON MY TASKS, ORGANISING, STRUCTURING, IMPROVING MY THINKING, PLANS, ACTIONS, GOING AND DOING IT, BE PRACTICAL AND REALISTIC, LIVE IN THE PRESENT AND REALITY, LEARN, ACQUIRE SKILLS AND USE THEM AND MAKE MONEY, USE MY SKILLS AND KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCE TO MAKE MONEY
GIVE IT TIME, BE PATIENT, CHILL OUT, RELAX, HANDLE PRESSURE, HAVE FUN
26th October Diary
too much knowledge kills action, it kills the ability to produce, to do something, to take action, to create, to redproduce, to develop, to innovate, to make an advancement
IGNORANCE IS BLISS
sometimes, DARKNESS IS BETTER THAN LIGHT
knowledge makes you afraid as you become aware of all the risks and cons and threats, this will make you FEARFUL AND AFRAID and thus you will start playing safe
TO SUCCEED OR TO DO SOMETHING OR TO CREATE SOMETHING AND MAKE MONEY ITS BETTER TO JUST GO AHEAD EVEN IF YOU ARE GOING TO FALL, AND FALL HARD, ITS NO USE ASKING THOUSAND PEOPLE WHO THEMSELVES ARE AFRAID, HAVE NO FAITH, NO SELF BELEIF, CONFIDENCE, LIVE IN DOUBT, HAVE TOO MUCH HEAD AND LOGIC AND KNOWLEDGE
if you believe in something JUST GO AHEAD AND DO IT, IT MAY TAKE TIME, BUT YOU WILL FIND THE WAY
WHEN THE PASSION, HEART AND PURPOSE GETS STRONGER AND CLEARER THE OBJECT AND THE GOAL BECOMES EASIER
FIND NEW AND MORE AND INNOVATIVE WAYS TO MAKE MONEY
EVERYONE IS DOING IT, YOU ALSO DO IT
BREAK THE RULES, BEND THE RULES, THERE ARE NO RULES AT THE END OF THE DAY, ITS ONLY BELIEFS, AND SELF BELIEFS
EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD IS UP FOR SALE
COPY AND STEAL, IN THE MARKET PLACE, THERE IS SPACE FOR EVERYTHING, THERE ARE BUYERS AND SELLERS AND PEOPLE BUY EVERTHING, EVEN TRASH HAS A VALUE, THINGS ARE RECYCLED, SO EVEN IF YOU COPY SOMETHING AND REPACKAGE AND RESTYLE AND SELL IT, IN SMALL NUMBERS OR LARGE NUMBERS, TO SMALL PEOPLE, OR BIG PEOPLE, FOR SMALL MARGIN OR LARGE MARGIN, YOU CAN STILL MAKE MONEY- THE QUESTION IS OF JUST DOING IT!!
EVERYTHING IS UP FOR SALE, EVERYTHING HAS A PRICE, SO IF YOU CAN SELL IT, THEN DO IT
IF YOU CAN BUY IT, THEN BUY IT
IF YOU CAN HAVE IT, THEN HAVE IT
IF YOU WANT SOMETHING REALLY REALLY ENOUGH, YOU WILL FIND WAYS TO GET IT
AT THE END OF THE DAY ITS GUTS, COURAGE, PERSISTENCE, SELF BELIEF, POSITIVISM, SKILLS, ATTITUDE, ABILITIES TO MANAGE, SPEECH, COMMUNICATION, TALKING, LISTENING, EMPATHY, EMOTIONS, LITTLE BIT OF HEAD AND COMMONSENSE AND LOGIC, note that common sense will always be negative and against you and that is the reason it is called common sense...
common sense is very good to play safe and carry one something, its not good for creation, development and expansion
differential, small, creative and unconventional sense is the point of view that is good for creation, development and expansion
copy and make whatever you can, japan did it and now they are original and inventors, china is doing it and soon they will become inventors and original when the money flows in and they become rich to hire research, development and creative staff, resources.
just copy- copy from books, web, articles, papers, magazines, reports- WRITE, write your own book. USE IT FOR PUBLISHING, MAKING MONEY, TRAINING, MANAGEMENT MATERIAL, TOOLS, SPEAKING, MOTIVATION. self publish it, write articles for some media and publish and get paid, ONE THING AND STEP WILL SLOWLY LEAD TO ANOTHER. YOU HAVE TO TAKE ACTION AND CONVERT YOUR THOUGHTS AND PLANS INTO PRACTICE FOR IT TO BECOME AN END PRODUCT.
try creative writing, express your ideas, your fantasy, your imagination, just write whatever comes into your mind, give shape later, write a screen play,
start your own company, website, give consultancy, image consultancy, brand consultancy, public relations services, call yourself a guru, marketing consultancy, everyone is doing it
call yourself an artist, goto galleries, work for them for free, organise
USE ALL YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND POTENTIAL TO MAKE MONEY AND CHARGE SO THAT YOU CAN GET AN INCOME
PUBLISH AND WRITE BOOK, OFFER CONSULTANCY SERVICES, SPEAK, NETWORK
eventually you will also get more offers
when you become rich or have some money start buying properties and use that to invest in real estate, make hotel, restauarant, spa, shop, let out your properties, manage them, furnish and sell.
FIND OUT SIMILAR KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THE INDUSTRY WHO ARE DOING IT AND JUST COPY AND EMULATE THEIR STEPS AND ACTIONS, WHAT THEY DO, WHERE THEY GO, WHAT THEY LEARN, WHAT THEY EAT, WHAT ARE THEIR HABITS, WHAT ARE THEIR HOBBIES, HOW THEY MAKE MONEY, HOW MUCH THEY MAKE, WHAT KIND OF BUSINESS, WORK, STRUCTURES THEY HAVE, HOW MUCH TIME DO THEY TAKE, WHAT CERTIFICATIONS AND ASSOCIATIONS THEY ARE WITH, HOW DID THEY START, HOW THEY OPERATE, WHAT ARE THEIR VALUES, PURPOSE, ROUTINES?
IGNORANCE IS BLISS
sometimes, DARKNESS IS BETTER THAN LIGHT
knowledge makes you afraid as you become aware of all the risks and cons and threats, this will make you FEARFUL AND AFRAID and thus you will start playing safe
TO SUCCEED OR TO DO SOMETHING OR TO CREATE SOMETHING AND MAKE MONEY ITS BETTER TO JUST GO AHEAD EVEN IF YOU ARE GOING TO FALL, AND FALL HARD, ITS NO USE ASKING THOUSAND PEOPLE WHO THEMSELVES ARE AFRAID, HAVE NO FAITH, NO SELF BELEIF, CONFIDENCE, LIVE IN DOUBT, HAVE TOO MUCH HEAD AND LOGIC AND KNOWLEDGE
if you believe in something JUST GO AHEAD AND DO IT, IT MAY TAKE TIME, BUT YOU WILL FIND THE WAY
WHEN THE PASSION, HEART AND PURPOSE GETS STRONGER AND CLEARER THE OBJECT AND THE GOAL BECOMES EASIER
FIND NEW AND MORE AND INNOVATIVE WAYS TO MAKE MONEY
EVERYONE IS DOING IT, YOU ALSO DO IT
BREAK THE RULES, BEND THE RULES, THERE ARE NO RULES AT THE END OF THE DAY, ITS ONLY BELIEFS, AND SELF BELIEFS
EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD IS UP FOR SALE
COPY AND STEAL, IN THE MARKET PLACE, THERE IS SPACE FOR EVERYTHING, THERE ARE BUYERS AND SELLERS AND PEOPLE BUY EVERTHING, EVEN TRASH HAS A VALUE, THINGS ARE RECYCLED, SO EVEN IF YOU COPY SOMETHING AND REPACKAGE AND RESTYLE AND SELL IT, IN SMALL NUMBERS OR LARGE NUMBERS, TO SMALL PEOPLE, OR BIG PEOPLE, FOR SMALL MARGIN OR LARGE MARGIN, YOU CAN STILL MAKE MONEY- THE QUESTION IS OF JUST DOING IT!!
EVERYTHING IS UP FOR SALE, EVERYTHING HAS A PRICE, SO IF YOU CAN SELL IT, THEN DO IT
IF YOU CAN BUY IT, THEN BUY IT
IF YOU CAN HAVE IT, THEN HAVE IT
IF YOU WANT SOMETHING REALLY REALLY ENOUGH, YOU WILL FIND WAYS TO GET IT
AT THE END OF THE DAY ITS GUTS, COURAGE, PERSISTENCE, SELF BELIEF, POSITIVISM, SKILLS, ATTITUDE, ABILITIES TO MANAGE, SPEECH, COMMUNICATION, TALKING, LISTENING, EMPATHY, EMOTIONS, LITTLE BIT OF HEAD AND COMMONSENSE AND LOGIC, note that common sense will always be negative and against you and that is the reason it is called common sense...
common sense is very good to play safe and carry one something, its not good for creation, development and expansion
differential, small, creative and unconventional sense is the point of view that is good for creation, development and expansion
copy and make whatever you can, japan did it and now they are original and inventors, china is doing it and soon they will become inventors and original when the money flows in and they become rich to hire research, development and creative staff, resources.
just copy- copy from books, web, articles, papers, magazines, reports- WRITE, write your own book. USE IT FOR PUBLISHING, MAKING MONEY, TRAINING, MANAGEMENT MATERIAL, TOOLS, SPEAKING, MOTIVATION. self publish it, write articles for some media and publish and get paid, ONE THING AND STEP WILL SLOWLY LEAD TO ANOTHER. YOU HAVE TO TAKE ACTION AND CONVERT YOUR THOUGHTS AND PLANS INTO PRACTICE FOR IT TO BECOME AN END PRODUCT.
try creative writing, express your ideas, your fantasy, your imagination, just write whatever comes into your mind, give shape later, write a screen play,
start your own company, website, give consultancy, image consultancy, brand consultancy, public relations services, call yourself a guru, marketing consultancy, everyone is doing it
call yourself an artist, goto galleries, work for them for free, organise
USE ALL YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND POTENTIAL TO MAKE MONEY AND CHARGE SO THAT YOU CAN GET AN INCOME
PUBLISH AND WRITE BOOK, OFFER CONSULTANCY SERVICES, SPEAK, NETWORK
eventually you will also get more offers
when you become rich or have some money start buying properties and use that to invest in real estate, make hotel, restauarant, spa, shop, let out your properties, manage them, furnish and sell.
FIND OUT SIMILAR KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THE INDUSTRY WHO ARE DOING IT AND JUST COPY AND EMULATE THEIR STEPS AND ACTIONS, WHAT THEY DO, WHERE THEY GO, WHAT THEY LEARN, WHAT THEY EAT, WHAT ARE THEIR HABITS, WHAT ARE THEIR HOBBIES, HOW THEY MAKE MONEY, HOW MUCH THEY MAKE, WHAT KIND OF BUSINESS, WORK, STRUCTURES THEY HAVE, HOW MUCH TIME DO THEY TAKE, WHAT CERTIFICATIONS AND ASSOCIATIONS THEY ARE WITH, HOW DID THEY START, HOW THEY OPERATE, WHAT ARE THEIR VALUES, PURPOSE, ROUTINES?
LOGIC- what is logical thinking?
We all have the skill to adopt an unemotional, detached, step-by-step approach to our thinking processes.
This type of thinking is safe as there is no room for untested ideas which pop into our heads at random.
However it is easy to rely too heavyily onto logic. We need to know when to switch it off and make room for more creative and imaginative ideas.
A GOOD LOGICAL THINKER IS:
well organised
pays attention to the smallest detail
concentrates on fact and not fantasy
can work within a rigid framework
does not allow personal feelings to colour judgements
stays detached
has lots of patience to eliminate variables through reasoning
has no sudden urge to leap into unknown territory!
Logical thinking requires the ACCEPTANCE of the CONCLUSION even if it is not something we want it to be.
Logical thinking means using information for a particular purpose and not for the sake of it.
It provides a focus and clear direction whilst disciplining, stretching and challenging the mind.
It eliminates bias and opinion and will ensure fairness.
A step by step approach, testing possible links, considering all possible.
Ask Questions: WHO? WHAT? WHERE? WHEN? HOW?
It is the sound, relatively safe, process of logical thinking which dominates business life.
TIPS
LOGICAL THINKING IS LIKE CLIMBING A TREE:
be sure why you want to climb the tree- to explore is not a good enough reason for the logical thinker. THE WHY QUESTION
make sure you have the right equipment- means to reach your goal.
choose the most obvious route- where the branches appear strongest.
get a firm footing at each stage before moving on.
keep looking ahead.
ignore the branches with the juicy fruit if they are not on your route!
make sure each step has a purpose and that it is the right step to take.
once you have reached the top ie your goal that is the end of your exercise.
THE CREATIVE THINKER PLAYS TARZAN, OR THE POSITIVE THINKER WHO BELIEVES THERE IS MORE TREES TO CLIMB AND WILL ARGUE THAT YOU JUST CANT SEE IT YET!
ANOTHER WAY IS TO:
DEFINE THE PURPOSE?- WHY DO YOU WANT TO DO THIS?
DEFINE THE OBJECTIVE?- WHAT DO YOU WANT EXACTLY AND PRECISELY?
DEFINE THE VISION
DEFINE THE TIMINGS AND DEADLINES AND PERIODS AND STAGES AND DURATIONS
DEFINE THE PEOPLE
DEFINE THE PLACES
DEFINE THE ROUTE AND BLUEPRINTS AND PLANT AND STICK TO IT
ELIMINATE VARIABLES, DEDUCE OPTIONS AND COME TO THE BEST CONCLUSION
BE FIRM AND STABLE AND SOLID AND SLOW
TAKE SMALL STEPS
TAKE ATTENTION TO ALL DETAILS
SET CLEAR GOALS AND OBJECTIVES AND ACHIEVE THEM
WORK AS PER SCHEDULES AND ROUTINES AND PLANS
what are the drawbacks:
it prevents creativity
it requires paying attention to detail which is cumbersome for some
used all the time it would indicate a lack of self confidence and initiative
it can sometimes over-ride other thought processes and lead to missed opportunities
it can be time consuming
This type of thinking is safe as there is no room for untested ideas which pop into our heads at random.
However it is easy to rely too heavyily onto logic. We need to know when to switch it off and make room for more creative and imaginative ideas.
A GOOD LOGICAL THINKER IS:
well organised
pays attention to the smallest detail
concentrates on fact and not fantasy
can work within a rigid framework
does not allow personal feelings to colour judgements
stays detached
has lots of patience to eliminate variables through reasoning
has no sudden urge to leap into unknown territory!
Logical thinking requires the ACCEPTANCE of the CONCLUSION even if it is not something we want it to be.
Logical thinking means using information for a particular purpose and not for the sake of it.
It provides a focus and clear direction whilst disciplining, stretching and challenging the mind.
It eliminates bias and opinion and will ensure fairness.
A step by step approach, testing possible links, considering all possible.
Ask Questions: WHO? WHAT? WHERE? WHEN? HOW?
It is the sound, relatively safe, process of logical thinking which dominates business life.
TIPS
LOGICAL THINKING IS LIKE CLIMBING A TREE:
be sure why you want to climb the tree- to explore is not a good enough reason for the logical thinker. THE WHY QUESTION
make sure you have the right equipment- means to reach your goal.
choose the most obvious route- where the branches appear strongest.
get a firm footing at each stage before moving on.
keep looking ahead.
ignore the branches with the juicy fruit if they are not on your route!
make sure each step has a purpose and that it is the right step to take.
once you have reached the top ie your goal that is the end of your exercise.
THE CREATIVE THINKER PLAYS TARZAN, OR THE POSITIVE THINKER WHO BELIEVES THERE IS MORE TREES TO CLIMB AND WILL ARGUE THAT YOU JUST CANT SEE IT YET!
ANOTHER WAY IS TO:
DEFINE THE PURPOSE?- WHY DO YOU WANT TO DO THIS?
DEFINE THE OBJECTIVE?- WHAT DO YOU WANT EXACTLY AND PRECISELY?
DEFINE THE VISION
DEFINE THE TIMINGS AND DEADLINES AND PERIODS AND STAGES AND DURATIONS
DEFINE THE PEOPLE
DEFINE THE PLACES
DEFINE THE ROUTE AND BLUEPRINTS AND PLANT AND STICK TO IT
ELIMINATE VARIABLES, DEDUCE OPTIONS AND COME TO THE BEST CONCLUSION
BE FIRM AND STABLE AND SOLID AND SLOW
TAKE SMALL STEPS
TAKE ATTENTION TO ALL DETAILS
SET CLEAR GOALS AND OBJECTIVES AND ACHIEVE THEM
WORK AS PER SCHEDULES AND ROUTINES AND PLANS
what are the drawbacks:
it prevents creativity
it requires paying attention to detail which is cumbersome for some
used all the time it would indicate a lack of self confidence and initiative
it can sometimes over-ride other thought processes and lead to missed opportunities
it can be time consuming
the benefit of making bad decisions...
- think the opposite from everyone else
- original ideas are created by original people, people who either through instinct or insight know the value of being different and recognize the commonplace as a dangerous place to be
- if you are trapped it is not because you are making the wrong decisions, it is because you are making the right ones.
- we try to make sensible decisions based on the facts in front of us. the problem with sensible decisions is that so is everyone else.
- if you always make the right decison, the safe decision, the one most people make, you will be same as everyone else.
- always wish life was different.
- i wish means would not it be nice if...
- i want means: if i want it enough i will get it.gettting what you want means the decisions you need to make to get to what you want. not the decisions those around you think you should make. making the safe decision is dull, predictable and leads nowhere new. the unsafe decision causes you to think and respond in a way you had not thought of, and that thought will lead to other thoughts which will help you achieve what you want. start taking bad decision and it will take you to a place where others only dream of being.
- always imagine before moving in
- its better to regret what you have done that what you have not. even when we want to be timid and play it safe, we should pause for a moment to imagine what we might be missing.
- have the confidence and courage to roll the dice
- you house of dreams is a house of dreams because you cant afford it yet! so either find a way of getting it- you will find the means, or be satisfied with dissatisfaction.
- life is about decisions. what ever decision you make is the only one you could make. otherwise you would make a different one. everything we do we choose. so whats there to regret?
- you are the person you choose to be!
- whatever you want you will get. but you have to want it enough to go about getting it. dreaming and talking about it wont achieve anything.
- there is only one person who can determine the shape of your life. who are you going to be?
- rock the boat
- before the age of thirty important things happen to us which shape the rest of our lives. the first is, we become aware of ourselves and our own thinking. we reach the age of reason. the second is, in our new found maturity we begin to think in a more adult way.
- recklessness and risk are not compatible with age. risk becomes something which must be carefully considered.
- most people are reasonable, thats why they do only reasonably well. the reasonable man adopts himself to the world. the unreasonable man adapts the world to himself- all progress depends upon the unreasonable man.
- old golfers dont win- its a general rule. he knows the downside, what happens if it goes wrong, which makes him more and more cautious.
- the young player is either ignorant or reckless to caution. that is his edge.
- knowledge makes us play safe.
- the secret is to stay childish.
- if you want to know how your life is going to turn out, you just have to know where you are heading.
- reach for the stars- if this is the level of your ambition- try aiming higher.
- do it, then fix it as you go- instead of waiting for perfection, run with what you have got, and fix it as you go.
- dont try to spend too much time trying to perfect something before they actually do it.
- ask for a slap in the face- instead of asking whats right, ask what is wrong. you will get truthful criticism which might hurt but will help you in the long run and is better than a pat on the back.
- be you own worst critic.
- when things go wrong its tempting to shift the blame- dont
- accept responsibility- people will appreciate it, and you will find out what you are capable of.
- it is better to listen carefully to what others are saying than to put up a show of your own brilliance- if you want to be interesting, be interested.
- how you present yourself is how others will value you.
- have a goal- become what you want to be before you can actually do it.
- only think about yourself, life is about "me" anyway- put your ego to good use.
- call yourself artist, genius, inventor, original
- dont lose or sacrifice your ego
- get on with what you want to do, get on with the job, dont worry about how you are coming across to others.
- you dont have to worry about how you are coming across to colleagues, workplace, others, because they are busy worrying how they are coming across to you.
- meetings and acts of convincing are for those who dont have enough to do.
- the real players dont need to act out the meeting game.
- whats your point of view? whats your opinion?
- most people are other people. their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.
- there is no right point of view.
- there is a conventional or popular point of view. there is a personal point of view. there is a large point of view which a majority share. there is a small point of view which only few share. but there is no right point of view.
- you are always right. you are always wrong. it just depends upon which pole you are looked at.
- advances in any field are based upon people with the small or personal point of view.
- people are like sheep, they follow the leader. it is the leader who has a point of view about which way they should go. having an original point of view or angle is novelty. recognising its value is intelligence. having the courage to stand up for it in the face of public opinion is what makes you a winner.
- turn things upside down, or turn yourself upside down, things will start looking positive
- a good idea is one that happens- if it does not it is not!
- ideas are matter of taste. what is a good idea to someone can be bad or boring to someone else. if an idea is not taken up and used it has no value.
- lying in a drawer an idea is useless. worse than useless, it is complete waste of space.
- even a bad idea executed is better than a good idea undone.
- the longer the idea is used the better it is considered to be.
- ideas have to be applied before they are considered as good ideas.
- its not always good to have too many ideas
- its not where you take things from, its where you take things to.
- steal and copy from anywhere that sets up your inspirations and imagination- music, movies, art, clouds, roads, travel, places, nature. select only things that speak directly to your soul- if you do this your work will be authentic
- sometimes the clever thing is not to be too clever
- for a creative person starting out on a career- dont think about music, movies, product, media, etc.- JUST THINK ABOUT MONEY & MONEY- ITS HONEST, SIMPLE, CLEAR, FOCUSED!!
- start your own company- be you own boss- control your own destiny
- go to work and do you earning in the school of life
- it is better to live in IGNORANCE than with KNOWLEDGE. solving the problem is the exciting part, not knowing the answer.
- once a conjuring trick is explained, it loses its magic. the excitement of a game of football is not knowing who is going to win, or what will be the outcome.
- some people have success and live and rest on their laurels. the lucky ones continue to live in IGNORANCE.
- good marks will not secure you an interesting life, your imagination will!!
- in order to succeed in your failure, you have to think of your failed situation as a good place to start with.
- IMAGINE, IMAGINE, IMAGINE!!
- make tea, work for free, be a runner
- dont be negative about rejection- happens at this age
- sum up your concept and idea in one word
- astonish me!! ask anyone to astonish you with their ideas and product and whatever you will do after that will be creative
- SIMPLY CHANGE YOUR LIFE- the world is what you think of it. so think of it DIFFERENTLY and your life will change.
make delicious paneer tikka
ingredients you will need:
750 grams paneer, cut into 1" cubes
200 grams beaten curd
1.5 tsp red chilli powder
2 tsp garam masala powder
2 tbsp gram flour
Oil for brushing
Salt for taste
Method:
mix the curd, salt, red chilli powder, garam masala powder and gram flour. Mix well and very well.
add the paneer cubes. mix, cover and marinate in the refrigerator for 4 hours.
place the paneer cubes on the grilling rack, brush with a little oil and grill for 15-20 minutes. (till golden brown on all sides). reposition the paneer pieces frequently for even cooking and brush with little oil each time.
sprinkle chat masala, lemon juice and serve.
750 grams paneer, cut into 1" cubes
200 grams beaten curd
1.5 tsp red chilli powder
2 tsp garam masala powder
2 tbsp gram flour
Oil for brushing
Salt for taste
Method:
mix the curd, salt, red chilli powder, garam masala powder and gram flour. Mix well and very well.
add the paneer cubes. mix, cover and marinate in the refrigerator for 4 hours.
place the paneer cubes on the grilling rack, brush with a little oil and grill for 15-20 minutes. (till golden brown on all sides). reposition the paneer pieces frequently for even cooking and brush with little oil each time.
sprinkle chat masala, lemon juice and serve.
Facts Inferences Judgements
FACT
descibes that we have seen, heard or read, they are capable of verification and exclude inferences and judgements;
A piece of information about circumstances that exist or events that have occurred;
A statement or assertion of verified information about something that is the case or has happened;
A concept whose truth can be proved
INFERENCE
means a statement about an unknown made on the basis of known;
The reasoning involved in drawing a conclusion or making a logical judgment on the basis of circumstantial evidence and prior; conclusions rather than on the basis of direct observation
JUDGEMENT
implies an approval or disapproval or opinion of objects, occurrences or persons described;
An opinion formed by judging something;
The cognitive process of reaching a decision or drawing conclusions;
The mental ability to understand and discriminate between relations;
The capacity to assess situations or circumstances shrewdly and to draw sound conclusions;
The act of judging or assessing a person or situation or event
descibes that we have seen, heard or read, they are capable of verification and exclude inferences and judgements;
A piece of information about circumstances that exist or events that have occurred;
A statement or assertion of verified information about something that is the case or has happened;
A concept whose truth can be proved
INFERENCE
means a statement about an unknown made on the basis of known;
The reasoning involved in drawing a conclusion or making a logical judgment on the basis of circumstantial evidence and prior; conclusions rather than on the basis of direct observation
JUDGEMENT
implies an approval or disapproval or opinion of objects, occurrences or persons described;
An opinion formed by judging something;
The cognitive process of reaching a decision or drawing conclusions;
The mental ability to understand and discriminate between relations;
The capacity to assess situations or circumstances shrewdly and to draw sound conclusions;
The act of judging or assessing a person or situation or event
Friday, 24 October 2008
basic rules of life, work, relationships, success, family, friendhips
RULES FOR YOURSELF
- learn to ask questions
- keep your rules and secrets under your hat
- keep your success under your hat
- mind your own work and business
- stay busy
- keep your mouth shut
- accept what is done is done, look ahead
- know what counts and what doesnot
- be flexible in your thinking and approach
- only dead fish swim with the stream
- be the last to raise your voice- stop arguing and control anger
- be your own adviser, teacher, trainer, guide, director, way-shower, mentor
- if you regret something, do it- I wish I had done that, and I will
- aim to be the very best at everything you do- not second best
- get on with life- its whooshing past- have fun, stay active, do things you wants, strive for your goals, be aggressive and assertive, work hard, play hard, do things that you like and enjoy, stay happy, feel good, think good
- dress like today is important
- have a sense of humour
- get used to stepping outside your comfort zone
- have dignity
- maintain good manners in all things
- prune your stuff frequently
- remember to touch base and keep in touch
- draw the lines around yourself
- its ok to worry or know how not to- learn to relax, manage stress, take actions, solve problems, handle conflicts
- stay young
- have something in your life that takes you out of yourself
- if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all
- accept the differences, take what you have in common
- allow your partner the space to be themselves
- be the first to say sorry
- know when to listen and when to act
- keep talking
- respect privacy
- check you both have the same shared goals
- treat your partner better than your best friend
- never be too busy for loved ones
- give your kids a break
- never lend money unless you are prepared to write it off
- there are no bad children
- be up around people you love
- your children need to fall out with you to leave home
- your role as a child
- your role as a parent
- we are all closer than you think
- it doesnot hurt to forgive
- it doesnot matter to be helpful
- be generous with your time and information
- keep the moral high ground
- look at the long term ramifications of what you do for a living
- be good at your job
- not everything can be green
- put something back
- find a new rule everyday- or occasionally at least
my definition of happiness...
my definition of happiness...
- happiness is living in the moment and enjoying the present
- enjoying the little things, minute details, sorroundings is happiness.
- happiness is being fulfilled
- happing is finally accepting yourself for what you are
- happiness is doing things that you really want to do, not what others tell you to do
- happiness is doing things that you are good at
- happiness is utilising your talents, values, potential, skills, character
- happiness is sticking to your true values
- sharing, giving is happiness
- learning is happiness
- helping others in achieving their dreams and goals is happiness
- being loving, kind, generous, teaching, mentoring, coaching, caring is happiness
- being creative is happiness
- being with people is happiness
- going out and having fun is happiness
- not worrying about riches and money is happiness
- doing your activities, interests and hobbies is happiness
- staying with like minded people, friends is happiness
- recognising your trueself is happiness
- being musical, romantic, passionate, loving is happiness
- creating beautiful things, art, design, atmosphere, environments is happiness
- learning, experimenting, discovering is happiness
- seeing family, friends, associates happy and successful is happiness
- doing thing that you like, enjoy, wants is happiness
- being adventureous, spontaneous, in nature is happiness
- loving God and being spiritual is happiness
- helping, caring and giving is happiness
- following your interests and passions is happiness
- making others smile and happy is happiness
- trying out new things and hobbies is happiness
- enjoying life is happiness
- travelling, listening to music, playing music, watching movies is happiness
- doing artisic and creative things is happiness
boost your energy and enthusiasm
- take a deep breath- practise everyday for 15 minutes whenever you feel stressed. let the air fill your chest and abdomen and release slowly.
- meditate- find a quiet place and sit comfortable and relax. focus on a neutral word. when you get distracted come back to the neutral word, image, symbol, picture.
- do some slow stretches- it helps move blood into the boday and oxygen into the brain.
- respect your body clock- determine your prime times, and save critical tasks for your high energy periods.
- try eating smaller and more frequent meals- this helps maintain blood sugar in the body.avoid fatty foods like icecreams, heavy sauces, sweets.
- get more sunlight- this maintains the body clock.
- stand up straight- keep your weight in the middle of the body. keep your head over your pelvis, ears over your shoulders and the small of your back forward. if you sit at a computer, your eyes should be with the middle of the screen.
- re-examine your sleeping habits- how much sleep is enough for you? see how you feel when you wake up? what time do you goto sleep? what time do you wake up? how do you feel when you get up?
when worry goes haywire- practical guide to relaxation and solving problems
- exercise- this reduces tension, drains excess aggression, frustration, improves sleep, helps concentration. this is the best anti worry solution.
- breathe- taking a series of deep breaths provided temporary relief.
- make connections- connect with family, friends, neighbourhood, organisations, work. be part of something larger than yourself. talk to your neighbours. this increases the feeling of strength and reduce your sense of vulnerability.
- talk to God- pray every day. meditate. read religious scriptures.
- add strucuture to your life- make lists of tasks to be done. write up a daily schedule. organise things, organise your home, workplace. arrange, order your life to make it easier and simple.
- do something that you enjjoy
- avoid the news- media loves the news and fills it with upsetting stories, limit its consumption and keep a cap on it.
- dont drink excessively- alcohol and drugs cause depression
- get physical- find someone you like a lot and hug them. touch people.
- get up- disengage from toxic worry the minute you find it wrapping you. do it deliberately. find and talk to a friend. the longer you let a worry last the harder it becomes to escape it.
- let music in- sing, listen, play.
- ask yourself- what is the use of all this worry?
- have a good cry
- laugh- humour is one of the best ways of dealing with worry
- monitor your automatic thoughts
- examine these thoughts for errors in logic and think of alternative hypothesis that are more logical
- Ask yourself- what am I basing these conclusions on?
- Ask yourself- what can I do to increase the likelihood of a more favourable outcome?
- Ask yourseld- is there another point of view that makes sense?
- Ask yourself- do you see yourself as a loser or an underachiever?
- find out how these automatic thoughts and errors in logic reflect on your life and yourself
- get the facts
- base worry on reality, not on fantasy
- worry is a disease of your thoughts and imagination
- worry derives from misreading of reality
- learn how to keep things in perspective and see from different points of view, angles, logic, reality, persons
- learn how to positively talk to yourself
- keep a notepad on your bedside, table, car and write worry, thoughts down and read and sort them next morning
- dont sweat the small stuff- after all its all for nothing!!
when worry goes haywire- practical guide to relaxation and solving problems
- exercise- this reduces tension, drains excess aggression, frustration, improves sleep, helps concentration. this is the best anti worry solution.
- breathe- taking a series of deep breaths provided temporary relief.
- make connections- connect with family, friends, neighbourhood, organisations, work. be part of something larger than yourself. talk to your neighbours. this increases the feeling of strength and reduce your sense of vulnerability.
- talk to God- pray every day. meditate. read religious scriptures.
- add strucuture to your life- make lists of tasks to be done. write up a daily schedule. organise things, organise your home, workplace. arrange, order your life to make it easier and simple.
- do something that you enjjoy
- avoid the news- media loves the news and fills it with upsetting stories, limit its consumption and keep a cap on it.
- dont drink excessively- alcohol and drugs cause depression
- get physical- find someone you like a lot and hug them. touch people.
- get up- disengage from toxic worry the minute you find it wrapping you. do it deliberately. find and talk to a friend. the longer you let a worry last the harder it becomes to escape it.
- let music in- sing, listen, play.
- ask yourself- what is the use of all this worry?
- have a good cry
- laugh- humour is one of the best ways of dealing with worry
- monitor your automatic thoughts
- examine these thoughts for errors in logic and think of alternative hypothesis that are more logical
- Ask yourself- what am I basing these conclusions on?
- Ask yourself- what can I do to increase the likelihood of a more favourable outcome?
- Ask yourseld- is there another point of view that makes sense?
- Ask yourself- do you see yourself as a loser or an underachiever?
- find out how these automatic thoughts and errors in logic reflect on your life and yourself
- get the facts
- base worry on reality, not on fantasy
- worry is a disease of your thoughts and imagination
- worry derives from misreading of reality
- learn how to keep things in perspective and see from different points of view, angles, logic, reality, persons
- learn how to positively talk to yourself
- keep a notepad on your bedside, table, car and write worry, thoughts down and read and sort them next morning
- dont sweat the small stuff- after all its all for nothing!!
Positive Questions 1
ask yourself "value" questions
ask yourself "behaviour" questions
ask yourself "mission" questions
asking yourself better questions will result in better actions and decisions
ask yourself positive questions
ask yourself sincere questions
ask yourself intelligent questions
ask yourself smart questions
"why" = purpose
"what" = object or the goal
"when" = timing, date, hour, routine, schedule, deadline
"where" = place
"who" = people
"how" = steps, processes, actions, approach, technique, style
example questions to ask yourself:
where am I?
why am I here?
what am I doing?
why am I doing this?
how can I improve this?
what should I do to get to the goal?
what do i want to do?
what is this feeling?
what is this thought?
how can i make money on this?
how can i make more money?
how can i create something out of this?
how can i better this?
how can i build on this?
what do i need to do next?
where am i heading?
is this the right thing to do?
what is not good yet?
what is not perfect yet?
what is missing?
what is wrong?
why do i want to do this?
why do i want this?
why am i going there?
what is good for me?
what can i learn from this?
what are the pros?
what are the cons?
what is the process behind this?
who is involved?
whom should i speak to?
ask yourself "behaviour" questions
ask yourself "mission" questions
asking yourself better questions will result in better actions and decisions
ask yourself positive questions
ask yourself sincere questions
ask yourself intelligent questions
ask yourself smart questions
"why" = purpose
"what" = object or the goal
"when" = timing, date, hour, routine, schedule, deadline
"where" = place
"who" = people
"how" = steps, processes, actions, approach, technique, style
example questions to ask yourself:
where am I?
why am I here?
what am I doing?
why am I doing this?
how can I improve this?
what should I do to get to the goal?
what do i want to do?
what is this feeling?
what is this thought?
how can i make money on this?
how can i make more money?
how can i create something out of this?
how can i better this?
how can i build on this?
what do i need to do next?
where am i heading?
is this the right thing to do?
what is not good yet?
what is not perfect yet?
what is missing?
what is wrong?
why do i want to do this?
why do i want this?
why am i going there?
what is good for me?
what can i learn from this?
what are the pros?
what are the cons?
what is the process behind this?
who is involved?
whom should i speak to?
hedging, managing risks, secure, protect, prevent fraud
how to hedge, manage risks, secure, protect investments, assets, prevent fraud...
manage well
delegate well
look after and care
play the game
take good responsibility
know the cons
know the downsides
know the threats
know the possibilities and look from different angles and positions
know cause and effect
know the priority by its importance, urgency, level of effects
put in appropriate controls to mitigate
work hard and be involved deeply
take care of all details and small details
day to day operations, routine affairs, people, tasks
overall state of affairs
motivate, train, coach, teach
have an exit plan and strategy
protect by fencing and security
discriminate, ignore, partiality tactis
accomodate tactics
look after your pot, plant, investment, people, operations
delegate
hedge against another instrument
hedge with a movable security
hedge with references, vouchers
have your set of Rules
credit check, people check, contacts check, track records
check for gossips and air
profiling and performance check
security
spies, informers, messengers
double check
back track
find out
third party checks
swot checks
area checks, neighbourhood, location checks, air, talks
involve others
market data, research
facts and figures
worth and value!
blueprints
small lines, small prints, little details
terms and conditions
demand and supply
block and unblock
manage well
delegate well
look after and care
play the game
take good responsibility
know the cons
know the downsides
know the threats
know the possibilities and look from different angles and positions
know cause and effect
know the priority by its importance, urgency, level of effects
put in appropriate controls to mitigate
work hard and be involved deeply
take care of all details and small details
day to day operations, routine affairs, people, tasks
overall state of affairs
motivate, train, coach, teach
have an exit plan and strategy
protect by fencing and security
discriminate, ignore, partiality tactis
accomodate tactics
look after your pot, plant, investment, people, operations
delegate
hedge against another instrument
hedge with a movable security
hedge with references, vouchers
have your set of Rules
credit check, people check, contacts check, track records
check for gossips and air
profiling and performance check
security
spies, informers, messengers
double check
back track
find out
third party checks
swot checks
area checks, neighbourhood, location checks, air, talks
involve others
market data, research
facts and figures
worth and value!
blueprints
small lines, small prints, little details
terms and conditions
demand and supply
block and unblock
Money & Wealth Theory 1
life pushes all of us around- learn and move on, learn the lessons.
the situation play it safe is good when the fear of losing is greater than fear of winning.
RICH DONT WORK FOR MONEY
=rich make money work for them
=rich are not slave to money or paying bills
=learning to make money work for you is LIFE TIME STUFY
=FEAR and IGNORANCE are the main causes
=learn to use emotions to think, dont think emotionally
BE FINANCIAL LITERATE & APTITUDE
=know the differences between ASSETS & LIABILITIES
=buy ASSETS
=ASSETS are anything that puts money into the pocket
=LIABILITIES are that takes money out of the pocket
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS
=wealth is a person's ability to survive forwards
=rich buy ASSETS
=middle class buy LIABILITIES that they think are ASSETS
=lower class only have EXPENSES
RICH WORK FOR ONLY THEMSELVES
RICH MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS
=look after their ASSETS
=INVEST, REINVEST, RE-RE-INVEST
=find new, more, creative ways to generate income, reveneues and CREATE WEALTH
=FOCUS on the ASSET COLUMN
=have solid habits, characters, learn to grow, work on personal growth, human relations
=mind their own BUSINESS, keep shut, keep quiet and keep their SUCCESS FORUMALAS & SECRETS and RULES to THEMSELVES
=have excellent interests, hobbies, people skills, knowledge, learning aptitude
RICH TEND TO BUY LUXURIES LAST
=poor and middle class buy their luxuries, designer wear sooner- to look rich and impress others
= live well within their means
=save and save and save
=work hard, hard, hard
=focus on the BOTTOMLINE
the situation play it safe is good when the fear of losing is greater than fear of winning.
RICH DONT WORK FOR MONEY
=rich make money work for them
=rich are not slave to money or paying bills
=learning to make money work for you is LIFE TIME STUFY
=FEAR and IGNORANCE are the main causes
=learn to use emotions to think, dont think emotionally
BE FINANCIAL LITERATE & APTITUDE
=know the differences between ASSETS & LIABILITIES
=buy ASSETS
=ASSETS are anything that puts money into the pocket
=LIABILITIES are that takes money out of the pocket
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS
=wealth is a person's ability to survive forwards
=rich buy ASSETS
=middle class buy LIABILITIES that they think are ASSETS
=lower class only have EXPENSES
RICH WORK FOR ONLY THEMSELVES
RICH MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS
=look after their ASSETS
=INVEST, REINVEST, RE-RE-INVEST
=find new, more, creative ways to generate income, reveneues and CREATE WEALTH
=FOCUS on the ASSET COLUMN
=have solid habits, characters, learn to grow, work on personal growth, human relations
=mind their own BUSINESS, keep shut, keep quiet and keep their SUCCESS FORUMALAS & SECRETS and RULES to THEMSELVES
=have excellent interests, hobbies, people skills, knowledge, learning aptitude
RICH TEND TO BUY LUXURIES LAST
=poor and middle class buy their luxuries, designer wear sooner- to look rich and impress others
= live well within their means
=save and save and save
=work hard, hard, hard
=focus on the BOTTOMLINE
Thursday, 23 October 2008
conversation starters, questions, icebreakers, getting to know
what is your email address?
do you have a online chat address?
what is your phone number?
where are you now?
what do you do?
what do you do in free time?
how are you?
what is going on?
whats up?
whats not good yet?
how have you been?
long time no see?
how is life?
where do you hangout?
what do you do for living?
what do you do after work?
what do you do at weekend?
when were you born?
what city were you born in?
what different things did you want to be when you grew up?
what cartoon character did you like best when you were young?
did you have an imaginery friend? how would you describe them?
what was your neighbourhood like when you were younger?
what was your favourite game to play when you were younger?
were you teased by others when you were young? did you tease others?
who was your first best friend?
what was your favourite subject and least favourite subject in school?
did you get an allowance? how did you earn it?
what sports and activities did you participate in?
did you ever hang out with the wrong crowd in the school?
what was your first job? how much did you get paid?
at what age did you hit puberty?
were you an early or late bloomer?
have you kept in touch with your high school sweethearts?
do you like your name? if you could change it what would it be?
how would your parents describe raising you as a child?
how would your mom describe you?
how would you describe your mom?
how would your father describe you?
how would you describe your father?
how would you describe the members of your family?
whats the biggest fight you have had with your family?
which family member are you closest to?
if you could change one things about your family what would it be?
how would your parents describe the perfect mate for you? would you agree with that?
do you keep any secrets from your family?
whats your family most proud of you for?
when is the right time to start a family of yours?
what would your ideal family consist of?
if your children could remember one lesson in life, what would you teach them? how would you teach?
who is your best friend?
whats most common among all your friends?
how often do friends come to you for advice? how often do you go to them for advice?
how would your friends describe the way you act when you get angry?
how would your friends describe the way you act when you are happy?
if friends from high school were to see you now, what would they think?
name on time you fought with a friend? what was the fight about? how did you solve it?
how did you meet the majority of your friends?
whats the nicest thing a friend has done for you? whats the nicest thing you have done for a friend?
which of your friends are you most similar to?
name one thing you would not want your friends to know about? how would they react to it?
do you make new friends easily?
define a good friend? do you consider yourself a good friend?
how do you distinguish between a friend and an acquaintance?
what are your parents occupations?
how did you end up in your current job?
are you paid what you're worth?
what do you base your worth on?
what is the greatest career challenge you have faced and how did you handle it?
how do you forsee your career situation five years from now?
what are your career goals?
how do you plan to achieve your career goals?
is your current position what you thought would be five years ago?
would you make a good boss? why?
whats your ideal job?
do you work better alone or with a team? why is that?
do you work well under pressure?
what makes your job worth getting up for?
who do you use as references? what would they say about you?
do you consider yourself a hard worker? based on what facts?
on average how many hours do you work in a given week?
does your job make you feel proud?
in your life's priorities where does your career fall?
what event in your life would you like to permanently forget?
whats the most regrettable thing you have done to someone?
what is your most embarrassing moment in life?
whats the dumbest argument you have ever had? who started it?
whats the greatest personal challenge you have ever faced? how did it change you?
have you ever got into a physical fight? who started it? why?
whats your worst dream? what is its interpretation?
whats your favourite daydream in recent years?
whats your greatest personal strength? how has it helped you in life?
what personal quality would you like to improve the most?
who has had the greatest positive impact in your life?
what lessons have you learnt the hard way?
do you tend to learn after one mistake or after many mistakes?
think back five years from today? how did you think your life would have been today?
how is it differnet from what you pictured?
what is the life you have pictured five years from now?
what is the life you have pictured one year from now?
what is the life you have pictured ten years from now?
have you ever been arrested? why?
name one things that you are constantly putting off? why?
who do you turn to when you are sad, angry, lonely or upset?
how well do you keep secrets?
has anyone told you look like a celebrity? why?
whats your greatest insecurity?
whats your greatest fear?
do you plan ahead or take one day at a time?
do you consider yourself in shape?
what book do you read?
what was the last movie you saw or rented?
whats your favourite food?
whats your favourite tv show?
whats your favourite place to travel?
whats your favourite sport?
whats your favourite outfit?
how do you relax?
whats your favourite restaurant?
whats your favourite movie of all time?
whats your favourite season? why?
do you tend to focus more on the past, present or the future?
what is your worst habit? how can you stop it?
how often do you balance your checkbook?
whats the first thing you do when you wake up?
what five words would you use to describe yourself? can you give an example of how you possess each charachterstic?
do you tend to blame others for your problems?
do you believe in luck? do you consider yourself to be lucky?
do you fear death?
is comprise hard for you? why?
what talents you have that would surprise me?
how can someone tell if you are happy? how can they tell if you are sad?
what types of people tend to be attracted to you?
whats one thing you cant say NO to?
what do you constantly worry about?
how do you define happiness?
who knows you better than anyone?
who would you die for?
when are you totally at peace?
what setting are you most comfortable in?
how do you deal with stress? what triggers it?
are you pro choice or pro life?
do you consider yourself financially stable?
are you a morning or a night person?
what are your hobbies?
how patient are you? give an example?
do you tend to exaggerate things?
are you a good listener?
how good is your sense of direction?
how often do you compliment people?
how often do you watch sports?
do you act your age?
how gullible are you?
do you keep a diary?
how are your sleeping habits?
in heated arguments do you walk away or keep it until you have the last word?
what do you wear to sleep in?
how often do you read the newspapers or watch the news?
what style of underwear do you wear?
how would you descibe your dream house?
how would you describe your dream wedding?
do you fear committment?
what five words describe your perfect mate?
whats the biggest turn on for you?
whats your most sensitive body part?
how do you define intimacy?
who taught you about the 'birds' and the 'bees'? how old were you?
do you prefer to make the first move or have it made on you?
do you watch porno?
what are your secret desires?
whats the longest you have gone without sex?
how many times you have sex a week?
whats the most sensual thing someone has done to you?
how do you set the mood?
judging from a scale of 1-10 how experienced are you?
what percentage of people do you think are virgins?
when you meet someone first do you wonder what they are like in bed?
what makes you feel sexy?
do you think you are sexy when you naked?
do you have a online chat address?
what is your phone number?
where are you now?
what do you do?
what do you do in free time?
how are you?
what is going on?
whats up?
whats not good yet?
how have you been?
long time no see?
how is life?
where do you hangout?
what do you do for living?
what do you do after work?
what do you do at weekend?
when were you born?
what city were you born in?
what different things did you want to be when you grew up?
what cartoon character did you like best when you were young?
did you have an imaginery friend? how would you describe them?
what was your neighbourhood like when you were younger?
what was your favourite game to play when you were younger?
were you teased by others when you were young? did you tease others?
who was your first best friend?
what was your favourite subject and least favourite subject in school?
did you get an allowance? how did you earn it?
what sports and activities did you participate in?
did you ever hang out with the wrong crowd in the school?
what was your first job? how much did you get paid?
at what age did you hit puberty?
were you an early or late bloomer?
have you kept in touch with your high school sweethearts?
do you like your name? if you could change it what would it be?
how would your parents describe raising you as a child?
how would your mom describe you?
how would you describe your mom?
how would your father describe you?
how would you describe your father?
how would you describe the members of your family?
whats the biggest fight you have had with your family?
which family member are you closest to?
if you could change one things about your family what would it be?
how would your parents describe the perfect mate for you? would you agree with that?
do you keep any secrets from your family?
whats your family most proud of you for?
when is the right time to start a family of yours?
what would your ideal family consist of?
if your children could remember one lesson in life, what would you teach them? how would you teach?
who is your best friend?
whats most common among all your friends?
how often do friends come to you for advice? how often do you go to them for advice?
how would your friends describe the way you act when you get angry?
how would your friends describe the way you act when you are happy?
if friends from high school were to see you now, what would they think?
name on time you fought with a friend? what was the fight about? how did you solve it?
how did you meet the majority of your friends?
whats the nicest thing a friend has done for you? whats the nicest thing you have done for a friend?
which of your friends are you most similar to?
name one thing you would not want your friends to know about? how would they react to it?
do you make new friends easily?
define a good friend? do you consider yourself a good friend?
how do you distinguish between a friend and an acquaintance?
what are your parents occupations?
how did you end up in your current job?
are you paid what you're worth?
what do you base your worth on?
what is the greatest career challenge you have faced and how did you handle it?
how do you forsee your career situation five years from now?
what are your career goals?
how do you plan to achieve your career goals?
is your current position what you thought would be five years ago?
would you make a good boss? why?
whats your ideal job?
do you work better alone or with a team? why is that?
do you work well under pressure?
what makes your job worth getting up for?
who do you use as references? what would they say about you?
do you consider yourself a hard worker? based on what facts?
on average how many hours do you work in a given week?
does your job make you feel proud?
in your life's priorities where does your career fall?
what event in your life would you like to permanently forget?
whats the most regrettable thing you have done to someone?
what is your most embarrassing moment in life?
whats the dumbest argument you have ever had? who started it?
whats the greatest personal challenge you have ever faced? how did it change you?
have you ever got into a physical fight? who started it? why?
whats your worst dream? what is its interpretation?
whats your favourite daydream in recent years?
whats your greatest personal strength? how has it helped you in life?
what personal quality would you like to improve the most?
who has had the greatest positive impact in your life?
what lessons have you learnt the hard way?
do you tend to learn after one mistake or after many mistakes?
think back five years from today? how did you think your life would have been today?
how is it differnet from what you pictured?
what is the life you have pictured five years from now?
what is the life you have pictured one year from now?
what is the life you have pictured ten years from now?
have you ever been arrested? why?
name one things that you are constantly putting off? why?
who do you turn to when you are sad, angry, lonely or upset?
how well do you keep secrets?
has anyone told you look like a celebrity? why?
whats your greatest insecurity?
whats your greatest fear?
do you plan ahead or take one day at a time?
do you consider yourself in shape?
what book do you read?
what was the last movie you saw or rented?
whats your favourite food?
whats your favourite tv show?
whats your favourite place to travel?
whats your favourite sport?
whats your favourite outfit?
how do you relax?
whats your favourite restaurant?
whats your favourite movie of all time?
whats your favourite season? why?
do you tend to focus more on the past, present or the future?
what is your worst habit? how can you stop it?
how often do you balance your checkbook?
whats the first thing you do when you wake up?
what five words would you use to describe yourself? can you give an example of how you possess each charachterstic?
do you tend to blame others for your problems?
do you believe in luck? do you consider yourself to be lucky?
do you fear death?
is comprise hard for you? why?
what talents you have that would surprise me?
how can someone tell if you are happy? how can they tell if you are sad?
what types of people tend to be attracted to you?
whats one thing you cant say NO to?
what do you constantly worry about?
how do you define happiness?
who knows you better than anyone?
who would you die for?
when are you totally at peace?
what setting are you most comfortable in?
how do you deal with stress? what triggers it?
are you pro choice or pro life?
do you consider yourself financially stable?
are you a morning or a night person?
what are your hobbies?
how patient are you? give an example?
do you tend to exaggerate things?
are you a good listener?
how good is your sense of direction?
how often do you compliment people?
how often do you watch sports?
do you act your age?
how gullible are you?
do you keep a diary?
how are your sleeping habits?
in heated arguments do you walk away or keep it until you have the last word?
what do you wear to sleep in?
how often do you read the newspapers or watch the news?
what style of underwear do you wear?
how would you descibe your dream house?
how would you describe your dream wedding?
do you fear committment?
what five words describe your perfect mate?
whats the biggest turn on for you?
whats your most sensitive body part?
how do you define intimacy?
who taught you about the 'birds' and the 'bees'? how old were you?
do you prefer to make the first move or have it made on you?
do you watch porno?
what are your secret desires?
whats the longest you have gone without sex?
how many times you have sex a week?
whats the most sensual thing someone has done to you?
how do you set the mood?
judging from a scale of 1-10 how experienced are you?
what percentage of people do you think are virgins?
when you meet someone first do you wonder what they are like in bed?
what makes you feel sexy?
do you think you are sexy when you naked?
Wednesday, 22 October 2008
make your brain work better
read a good book
play interesting video games
practice meditation
take enough rest
exercise regularly
eat a good breakfast of carbo, proteins, veggies, fruits
think positive thoughts
be a continual learner
lay off the alcohol
break and change your routines
stop watching too much of television
work with numbers, use less calculator
recall old memories
make beautiful music, learn an instrument
learn a new language
memorize a song
walk around blindfolded
decide to learn a new word every day- expand your vocabulary
play interesting video games
practice meditation
take enough rest
exercise regularly
eat a good breakfast of carbo, proteins, veggies, fruits
think positive thoughts
be a continual learner
lay off the alcohol
break and change your routines
stop watching too much of television
work with numbers, use less calculator
recall old memories
make beautiful music, learn an instrument
learn a new language
memorize a song
walk around blindfolded
decide to learn a new word every day- expand your vocabulary
Enjoy what you do.....make your work feel effortless
- Follow your natural rhythms. A lot of the time I resent working is because I’m trying to force myself to do something I don’t feel like doing. Naturally there will always be some things you’re not crazy about doing (like cleaning the toilet). But how often do you force yourself to work more, when you really want to relax? When you force yourself to work when you’ve promised yourself a break, you’ll likely just end up distracting yourself with other things and put off working. Then you get stressed and end up resenting work. Instead, follow your natural rhythms. When you feel like working, work. When you don’t, don’t. Don’t over complicate things.
- Do, don’t think. I’m going to stay true to this point and not think about writing something elaborate. Just do, stop thinking about it. Fail, make corrections later.
- Don’t put sugar in your tank. You wouldn’t put sugar in your gas tank right? It doesn’t make much sense to fill your body up with unhealthy fuel either. If you don’t have the energy to get the work you need to done, work will feel forced.
- Remove hidden roadblocks. What’s making you avoid working? What’s making your work seem like drudgery rather than joyful? It might have something to do with your beliefs about yourself. Maybe you believe you’re not good enough, smart enough or don’t have enough experience. Question your beliefs about what you can an can’t do.
- Only do your best. Work can easily become a chore when you’re trying to constantly be perfect. The truth is, some of your ideas might not be so great. Others will be mind blowing. If you can accept that and just do your best, you stop judging yourself. Guess what it feels like when you’re no longer picking over everything you do with a fine toothed comb? It feels extremely liberating. It feels like you can actually enjoy your experience, rather than worrying about how everything is going to turn out. That is working effortlessly.
- Act from your gut. When you think you have a great idea, believe it. Follow it. Chase it until you’re out of breath and can barely hold yourself up. Because if you don’t trust yourself, you’ll regret it later. The best way to live is to follow your intuition and trust life. If nothing else, trust yourself. Because if you can’t trust yourself, how can you trust your mistrust? That’s not very smart is it?
- Focus on what matters. Our minds are constantly pulling us in different directions. We have to wash the cat, buy more apple cinnamon oatmeal, finish writing that resignation letter to your no-longer-boss at your dead-end job, and all sorts of other things. We have a tendency to follow what’s urgent instead of what’s important. In order to get the important things done, we have to be ruthless at removing distractions. If it takes bringing a laptop (or notepad) to a cafe to write your grandiose novel, then do that. Avoid the vacuum of minutiae urgency. Remove all distractions so you can focus on the important things. I would much rather spend 4 hours working on an important project, then 4 hours spinning my wheels and scratching my head trying to figure out what I did today.
- Refuse to do what you don’t want to do. I often avoid working because I’m trying to do things I think I “should do.” I think I should read more because it will make me smarter. I think I should buy new clothes because it will make me cooler. I think I should work on this project because it will be good for my resume. Forget what you think you should do (except maybe… paying your rent). Do what you want to do. Other people will understand. In fact, they’ll probably envy you.
Do five simple things a day to stay sane, say scientists, The Times
Steps to happiness
Connect
Developing relationships with family, friends, colleagues and neighbours will enrich your life and bring you support
Be active
Sports, hobbies such as gardening or dancing, or just a daily stroll will make you feel good and maintain mobility and fitness
Be curious
Noting the beauty of everyday moments as well as the unusual and reflecting on them helps you to appreciate what matters to you
Learn
Fixing a bike, learning an instrument, cooking – the challenge and satisfaction brings fun and confidence
Give
Helping friends and strangers links your happiness to a wider community and is very rewarding
how to have fun...are you really having fun in your life??
- get focused- stop hiding who you really are
- take time to think what makes up your DNA
- when it comes down to it what do you stand for?
- and then when you know who you are, turn up the volume
- always be a first rate version of Yourself, instead of a second rate version of Someone-else
- get focused- start being intensly Selfish
- think of the people you love and respect and want to be with, the moments you like, the impact you want to have
- bottomline:dont waste your time on anything else
- when you come right down to it, all you have is yourself, there is nothing else
- be creative- stop following the rules
- if you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun
- with the exception of the rule of gravity, all rules are negotiable- someone just makes them up
- its no longer about what you can do, its about what you cant do
- be creative- start scaring yourself
- explore the edges
- dip your toes in the unthinkables
- seek out and have adventures
- stop taking it all so damn seriously!
- dont take life so seriously- you will not get much out of it
- in ten years time you will not remember about what you are doing or going through now
- just lighten up- this too will pass!!
- use your Wisdom- start getting rid of the Crap
- think of all that stuff that is weighing you down
- think of all that is coming onto your way, habits, attitude, people, thoughts, memory
- get rid of the clutter
- knowledge is collection of facts, wisdom is its simplification
- take action- stop being busy
- just because you are busy does not mean you are in a right track
- if it is the wrong hole- you need to stop digging
- take action-start something
- dont wait for permission for doing what you want to do
- there are always reasons to procrastinate just a little longer- Enough!!
- Just Start
- when all is said and done, a lot more is said than done.
Personal Growth
Keys to closing a sale
Notes on Happines, Self Discipline
How to Solve Problems Effectively
How to handle Fears
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i must go out, have fun, exercise, meet people, do an outdoor basic job, stay young, feel good, be in nature, try new jobs, evening, part time job, move around.
i must have more fun, be happier, be with people,enjoy life, enjoy little things of life, enjoy little details, take it easy, slow, live in the present, do things that i want and like and enjoy,be in control.
i must stay grounded, be realistic, emphatetic, use my natural abilities of love, imagination, kindness, compassion, artisitic, musicical, romance.
i must make money to pay for my expenses and livelihood and save for future.
i must be independent, and have my own control, locus and plans, job, work, livelihood, skills, work.
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Ask yourself:
What would I do if I had million dollars?
What would I do if I had all the money in the world?
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Everything first starts in the imagination, then it is converted and build into reality
There are two ways of getting out of the current work. One way is to take but little interest in what you are doing, aiming merely to do enough with which to "get by." Very soon you will find a way out, because the demand for your services will cease.
The other and better way is by making yourself so useful and efficient in what you are now doing that you will attract the favorable attention of those who have the power to promote you into more responsible work that is more to your liking.
It is your privilege to take your choice as to which way you will proceed.
we need not seek opportunity in the distance; that we may find it right where we stand! THIS IS A TRUTH WELL WORTH REMEMBERING!
The most outstanding of these weaknesses which stand between men and women and success are INTOLERANCE, CUPIDITY, GREED, JEALOUSY, SUSPICION, REVENGE, EGOTISM, CONCEIT, THE TENDENCY TO REAP WHERE THEY HAVE NOT SOWN, and the HABIT OF SPENDING MORE THAN THEY EARN.
the "Master Mind," meaning a mind that is developed through the harmonious co-operation of two or more people who ally themselves for the purpose of accomplishing any given task
no man has a chance to enjoy permanent success until he begins to look in a mirror for the real cause of all his mistakes- Napolean Hill
Abhishek- anger, lack of self-awareness, lack of self knowledge, immaturity, time...
Your definite chief aim in life should be selected with deliberate care, and after it has been selected it should be written out and placed where you will see it at least once a day, the psychological effect of which is to impress this purpose upon your subconscious mind so strongly that it accepts that purpose as a pattern or blueprint that will eventually dominate your activities in life and lead you, step by step, toward the attainment of the object back of that purpose.
Be sure that your definite purpose is constructive; that its attainment will bring hardship and misery to no one; that it will bring you peace and prosperity, then apply, to the limit of your understanding, the principle of self-suggestion for the speedy attainment of this purpose.
The principle of psychology through which you can impress your definite chief aim upon your subconscious mind is called Auto-suggestion, or suggestion which you repeatedly make to yourself.
do not "tell" the world what you can do- "show" it!!
any idea you firmly fix in your subconscious mind, by repeated affirmation, automatically becomes a plan or blueprint which an unseen power uses in directing your efforts toward the attainment of the objective named - in the plan.
the principle through which you may fix any idea you choose in your mind is called Auto-suggestion, which simply means a suggestion that you give to your own mind.
"if you want something done well, call on a busy person to do it. busy people are generally the most painstaking and thorough in all they do"
"the one who does not advance shows clearly, by the look on his face, by the posture of his body, by the lack of briskness in his step, by the uncertainty with which he speaks, that he lacks Self-confidence. No one is going to pay much attention to the person who has no confidence in himself"
"you are a human magnet and you are constantly attracting to you people whose characters harmonize with your own"
"the nickels, pennies, dimes which the average person allows to slips through his fingers would if systematically saved and properly put into work eventually brings financial independence"
"quit the habit of buying on credit"
"pay off your debts gradually" and keep your debts low or null.
"the spending habit must be replaced by saving habit for all those who strive for financial independence"
- listen, listen, listen
- listen carefully and understand
- learn to solve the customer's wants and problem
- talk less
- ask questions sequentially, logically, imaginatively to get to the YES of signing the deal
Notes on Happines, Self Discipline
- TO be Happy you must discipline your mind and practise Self-Discipline, not force and discipline imposed by others and external environments.
- Discipline yourself to what you should do and when you should do. It means self-mastery, self-control, self-direction. Every time you
- practice discipline your self-esteem goes up. Every thing in life is a test- every day, every hour, every minute, so you have to keep
- on passing the test by keeping your mind onto that test or task and then moving onto the next one.
- You must practise the implications of your behaviour for the effect it has short term and long term, and weigh both the sides.
- You must repeat actions to discipline your mind and train your mind and cultivate self-discipline and success.
- Repetetions is the secret of success.
- Anger is a destructive code, you must understand this impulse and take immediate causal action to prevent it.
- Prevention is the best action or solution to the problem.
- Things go wrong often in Life, so practise Surrender to give up control and be happy. Give up resistence. Use the power of Now.
- Surrender makes you feel peaceful, gives up hot feelings, controls anger, hatred, destruction, gives you a clearer vision and picture
- of things and what needs to be done. It makes you relaxed and happier and builds relationships and joy.
- Learn from nature, how seasons and nature unfolds slowly, do not resist the powers of nature, work your way and goals with it, across it, along it, do not fight it, be peaceful. Nature and Time is the best master.
- The cycle of life is cause and effect.
- To prevent a certain effect, you have to find the cause, think about why is it happenning, analyse it and take the root action.
- Always get to the root of the cause and solve it- talk less and do more.
How to Solve Problems Effectively
- learn to spend 80% spend time on the solution and only 20% time on the problem
- ask yourself- whats the quickest way I can turn this turnaround?
- Remember your brain can handle any kind of problems if you ask it an effective question.
- Dont get overwhelm- stay out of overwhelm.
- Learn to associate massive pain to overwhelm.
- Manage your own state of mind.
- Make sure your focus is right- write the problem down, find the solution and focus on it.
- Come out with your best solution and take immediate action.
- Remember to carry on with the momentum.
- If what you are trying is not working, then change your approach.
- Keep asking yourself questions- what would happen if I tried this, or tried that?- you have to create more possibilities and options.
- Be open to options and possibilities.
- Ask others form advice, ask others questions.
- get out of your comfort zones and increase your circle of influence.
- the purpose of problems is to make you Expand and Grow.
- problems are part of life, and it is for them that life goes on.
- Ask yourself following questions:
- *What's great or good about this?
- **What could be great or good about this?
- ***What's not perfect yet?
- ****What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
- *****What am I willing to no longer do to make it the way I want it?
- ******How can I do necessarily to get this job done and simultaneously enjoy the process?
How to handle Fears
- There is fear of failure
- There is fear of success
- FEAR= FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL
- A coward dies a thousand deaths, a courageous man only once!
- You have to make better rules and beliefs of success, life, relationships, happiness to handle fear better.
- Our own core beliefs generate emotions and thoughts- so if you change your beliefs then it will result in change in how you handle fear.
- Make sure you are in control, not controlled by the external environment, otherwise you will always be in fear, problems, turbulence and despair.
- The Past doesnot equal the future.
- All that matter is what are you going to do RIGHT NOW.
- Change your physiology for better, change the way you move, posture, breathing, speech, language.
- Get out of comfort zones- do new stuff, different stuff, involve others, ask others for help, do things rapidly, go for a change, use public transport.
- Identify your pattern, observe, Change your pattern, break the pattern, create pace and speed.
- Ask yourself what can I learn from this and move on.
- Decide you will not allow feeling of rejection to decide the outcome, impact, effect of your life.
- What will the price you will have to pay if you do not allow the feelings of rejection to be controlled?
- What are the benefits and gains you will get if you accept and let go the feeling of rejection?
- Also the Past doesnot equal the future.
- Rejection does not mean NO, it means NOT YET.
- Condition yourself- make yourself feel completely unstoppable, strong, great, powerful- feel it, breathe it, do it, imagine it, think it!!
- It is your perception of himself that how everyone, friends, family, relationships, the world responds to you.
- Whenever you fail or get rejected make a note of what you have benefitted from it.
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i must go out, have fun, exercise, meet people, do an outdoor basic job, stay young, feel good, be in nature, try new jobs, evening, part time job, move around.
i must have more fun, be happier, be with people,enjoy life, enjoy little things of life, enjoy little details, take it easy, slow, live in the present, do things that i want and like and enjoy,be in control.
i must stay grounded, be realistic, emphatetic, use my natural abilities of love, imagination, kindness, compassion, artisitic, musicical, romance.
i must make money to pay for my expenses and livelihood and save for future.
i must be independent, and have my own control, locus and plans, job, work, livelihood, skills, work.
========================================================================================================================
Ask yourself:
What would I do if I had million dollars?
What would I do if I had all the money in the world?
==========================================================================================================================
Everything first starts in the imagination, then it is converted and build into reality
There are two ways of getting out of the current work. One way is to take but little interest in what you are doing, aiming merely to do enough with which to "get by." Very soon you will find a way out, because the demand for your services will cease.
The other and better way is by making yourself so useful and efficient in what you are now doing that you will attract the favorable attention of those who have the power to promote you into more responsible work that is more to your liking.
It is your privilege to take your choice as to which way you will proceed.
we need not seek opportunity in the distance; that we may find it right where we stand! THIS IS A TRUTH WELL WORTH REMEMBERING!
The most outstanding of these weaknesses which stand between men and women and success are INTOLERANCE, CUPIDITY, GREED, JEALOUSY, SUSPICION, REVENGE, EGOTISM, CONCEIT, THE TENDENCY TO REAP WHERE THEY HAVE NOT SOWN, and the HABIT OF SPENDING MORE THAN THEY EARN.
the "Master Mind," meaning a mind that is developed through the harmonious co-operation of two or more people who ally themselves for the purpose of accomplishing any given task
no man has a chance to enjoy permanent success until he begins to look in a mirror for the real cause of all his mistakes- Napolean Hill
Abhishek- anger, lack of self-awareness, lack of self knowledge, immaturity, time...
Your definite chief aim in life should be selected with deliberate care, and after it has been selected it should be written out and placed where you will see it at least once a day, the psychological effect of which is to impress this purpose upon your subconscious mind so strongly that it accepts that purpose as a pattern or blueprint that will eventually dominate your activities in life and lead you, step by step, toward the attainment of the object back of that purpose.
Be sure that your definite purpose is constructive; that its attainment will bring hardship and misery to no one; that it will bring you peace and prosperity, then apply, to the limit of your understanding, the principle of self-suggestion for the speedy attainment of this purpose.
The principle of psychology through which you can impress your definite chief aim upon your subconscious mind is called Auto-suggestion, or suggestion which you repeatedly make to yourself.
do not "tell" the world what you can do- "show" it!!
any idea you firmly fix in your subconscious mind, by repeated affirmation, automatically becomes a plan or blueprint which an unseen power uses in directing your efforts toward the attainment of the objective named - in the plan.
the principle through which you may fix any idea you choose in your mind is called Auto-suggestion, which simply means a suggestion that you give to your own mind.
"if you want something done well, call on a busy person to do it. busy people are generally the most painstaking and thorough in all they do"
"the one who does not advance shows clearly, by the look on his face, by the posture of his body, by the lack of briskness in his step, by the uncertainty with which he speaks, that he lacks Self-confidence. No one is going to pay much attention to the person who has no confidence in himself"
"you are a human magnet and you are constantly attracting to you people whose characters harmonize with your own"
"the nickels, pennies, dimes which the average person allows to slips through his fingers would if systematically saved and properly put into work eventually brings financial independence"
"quit the habit of buying on credit"
"pay off your debts gradually" and keep your debts low or null.
"the spending habit must be replaced by saving habit for all those who strive for financial independence"
Tuesday, 21 October 2008
chatting online
online chatting with summer, mary, kapil chhetri today, after long time...feeling good to communicate and talk and know and learn about each other...want to keep in touch, be friendly, be connected, down to earth, chat, talk, expressive, childish, have fun, laugh....
sharing with each other on current events, what we doing, how we feel, rather than ambitions, success, money, ego, stress, worries, pride
being open minded, flexible, sharing, asking questions, interested in each other for long term rather than short term..
sharing with each other on current events, what we doing, how we feel, rather than ambitions, success, money, ego, stress, worries, pride
being open minded, flexible, sharing, asking questions, interested in each other for long term rather than short term..
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